A Disgusting Trick All Narcissists Do To Their Victims

A disgusting trick all narcissists do to their victims. In this video, we're going to be talking about a sneaky dishonest trick that all narcissists use. This is a low blow, a form of betrayal, an unfair tactic which is designed to sabotage your success, reputation, or well-being. So, this is something that would be considered to be deeply despicable, repulsive, and morally sickening because of the lack of sportsmanship and basic decency. I'm going to be explaining to you exactly what this trick is so that you can become more aware of it. But before I get into it, I'd really appreciate it if you could give this video a thumbs up as it helps to get this video out there to others who may need to become aware of this as well. Because when we're dealing with narcissists, awareness is key. So, let's work together to spread awareness of what these types of people do so that we can be better able to protect ourselves. And if you would like more personalized support, you are welcome to book a consultation with me whenever you are ready. Go to narciviver.co.uk. Now, let's talk about this because I want you to be aware of this before you might sink deeper into this trap that they may have laid out for you. One of the biggest mistakes you can make with a narcissist is assuming that just because you would protect someone's vulnerability, they will too. Because sometimes the moment you feel safe enough to tell them something, like what you might be insecure about what happened to you as a child, what you're frightened of [snorts] or what you couldn't cope with losing. You may think you're just creating intimacy with this person. You may think you're building a connection, but they may have just learned what hurts you. A narcissist can be ruthless. They may show no mercy to their victim. They will use your own insecurities or vulnerabilities against you. They will use anything that you have confided in them, anything that you may have trusted them with. They will keep it in their back pocket to use against you at a later date. They are not to be trusted. They are not someone you can open up to or someone you can share your dreams, goals, hopes or ambitions with. They will use anything you share with them against you. They are not going to be happy for you. They are not going to encourage you. They are not going to care for your feelings. They're not going to do any of that for you because they don't want to see you grow, succeed, or thrive. They want to hold you back in life. And the narcissist may not always be an intimate partner. Sometimes this could be a parent, a sibling, a friend, a work colleague, a neighbor, but it's usually someone close to you, someone who you may think you can trust. Think about whether you've experienced this in the past where you may have told someone something personal about yourself. You may have expressed how you always feel like you're not a good enough parent. And then a few months later during an argument they may say to you even you know you're not a good parent or you might say to your parents I always feel like I'm not good enough for you. And then the next time you try to set a boundary with your parents, they might say, "You've always been insecure and overly sensitive." And that is what makes this so painful. Because while the information may be true, the conclusion they're attached to isn't. They're taking your vulnerability, something that you have revealed during a moment of trust, and then they are strategically placing it somewhere they know you'll struggle to defend until something really sad starts to happen. You stop being vulnerable. You stop sharing your true feelings or deep thoughts. But instead you hide behind emotional walls. And not just with this person, with everyone. You fear being hurt again by criticism, rejection, or stress. So you start treating openless like danger because someone taught you that anything personal you reveal about yourself might be ammunition to someone. This is something you can unlearn with the right person with someone who you can trust. It doesn't mean that you should never trust anyone again. It means that vulnerability should be earned. Not everyone is entitled to know about your vulnerabilities or insecurities. Start with the small things and watch what they do with them. Because if someone can't be trusted with the small things you tell them, why would you trust them with the things that matter even more? Trust isn't something you have to give all at once. Let someone show you little by little that they're capable of handling it. And this is where you need to start paying attention to someone's behavior. Because people will often tell you that you can trust them. They'll tell you that they would never betray you. They'll tell you that they would never use something you've told them against you. But you don't really know someone because of what they promise you. You learn who someone is by watching what they do when they have something they could use against you. Do they protect the things you've told them? Do they respect your boundaries? Do they keep your private conversations private? Or do they bring those things back up whenever they're angry with you? Do they make little comments about your insecurities? Do they embarrass you with things you've told them in confidence? Do they remember exactly where you're vulnerable and then somehow find a way to press on that exact point when they want to hurt you? Because that's when you start to see the difference between someone who simply knows your vulnerabilities and someone who respects them. And that difference tells you a lot about whether you're actually safe being vulnerable with them. If you're dealing with narcissistic abuse or you're trying to heal afterwards, I have a new Facebook group where I post daily short videos. It is a community of like-minded people who are focusing on understanding what they went through and healing from this. And you also have direct access to talk to me inside the community. Here is the link to my new Facebook group. And before you go, I want you to grab a pen and paper because I want you to answer this one question. You can answer it in the comments if you're comfortable, but you don't have to. What part of yourself did you stop sharing because someone once made you regret being honest about it? Think about it carefully because vulnerability was never your weakness. The weakness belongs to the person who saw your trust and then decided to weaponize it against you. Thank you for joining me here today and I'll see you in the next one.