Video summary
The segment opens with a heartwarming interaction between host Charlotte and her nine-year-old daughter, who asks when she started accepting advice from others. This innocent query prompts a reflection on how difficult it is to admit one's own inexperience; paradoxically, understanding the limits of one's knowledge requires experience itself. The speaker admits that for him, genuinely valuing other people's opinions took until his mid-to-late twenties. He acknowledges past failures to listen adequately to parents and role models, noting that while he knew who looked up to, he did not fully embrace their guidance or put "good pennies back in the jar" after withdrawing them from it. The conversation shifts to a poignant question posed by an audience member regarding the emotional toll of leaving behind one's past life as success is achieved. The speaker describes feeling a profound melancholy while transitioning into a new entrepreneurial chapter, likening himself to someone on a rowboat approaching an island they worked hard for but cannot help but feel heartache over leaving the shoreline behind. This struggle involves reconciling the "child in" who desperately wants to return with the adult reality that necessitates moving forward, creating what he calls the ruthless last page of a lonely chapter and serving as a cliffhanger at the end of an era. To address this guilt associated with personal growth and leaving friends or environments behind, the speaker suggests practical strategies such as physically changing one's routine by relocating. He recounts his own history of moving twice—first from college to university and again when he left nightlife in Australia for America to launch a podcast—which successfully altered his thought processes and patterns. However, he warns against viewing this guilt as something noble or deserving; instead, it is simply the "cost of doing business." He argues that one should not trade their new life's achievements just to alleviate feelings about what was left behind, emphasizing that these are champagne problems for those who have finally achieved a life they can be proud of. The segment concludes with a powerful message from an audience member expressing deep gratitude and pride in the speaker's content, which has undeniably changed lives across his tour stops like Brisbane and Melbourne. The host responds by validating their feelings as outliers questioning situations rather than just accepting them, urging everyone to recognize how rare it is to work so hard on oneself. Ultimately, the discussion resolves with a call for self-grace, reminding listeners that they deserve to feel good about what they have accomplished without being weighed down by unnecessary guilt over past chapters or left-behind connections.
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hello hi I'm Charlotte and when did you
start to accept advice from other people
and why when did I start I
mean how old are you Charlotte nine
nine
wow me and James said some really really
bad things
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[Laughter]
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Mom and Dad I'm so
sorry she's Australian it's all
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good it took me quite a while to
properly take advice from other people
because you don't understand your own
level of inexperience it oddly enough
takes experience to understand how
little you know right which is this
curse the very beginning is when you
need the advice the most and yet you're
blind to how much you need it so for me
it took a very long time I would
say honestly my mid to late 20s before I
genuinely started to put stock in other
people's opinions about what I was doing
I knew that I had role models that I
looked up to but I didn't I didn't fully
embrace them and um I don't think I
actually listen to Mom and Dad as much
as I should have done either so to like
just put a little bit of good pennies
back in the jar after I've certainly
withdrawn
them the two people sat either side of
you might be a good place to
start and um I mean God the fact that
you've brought her to this this evening
is so cool man so cool can we have a
round of applause that is
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all right we've got a very excited this
better be a good question this is the
last one of the entire
tour if it's not everyone's just going
to have to wait and I'm going to have to
get another one press is on Cheers
thanks
mate well first of all yeah I just want
to extend a massive thank you just for
the content that you put out there it's
undoubtedly changed my life and I'm sure
I speak on behalf of everyone here so
cheers for that
mate thank you
um as a result of you know listening to
you guys and uh you know all the guests
that you've had on I kind of find myself
in this position now I've come to a
point where I'd say I'm Crossing Borders
out of the Lonely chapter I've managed
to find success in a entrepreneurial
path which uh it sees me beginning to
live a different life that you know no
one really grew up with now can continue
to relate to and um as I see see this
life that I once used to live you know
in the rearview mirror as I'm sort of
pulling away there's this overarching
Melancholy this feeling of kind of being
in a rowboat out at Sea and as I
approached that island that I rode so
hard to get towards right I just can't
help but feel this overwhelming
heartache for the shoreline that I've
left
behind how do I let go of this so I
don't come in and sour this new chapter
that is now on my doorstep with the
child in me so desperately wanting to
run back and the adult knowing that I
need to March forward oh my god
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dude who the [ __ ] is that
guy I just before I say this you know I
didn't get a chance to say it in
Brisbane or in Melbourne you guys are so
[ __ ] smart I'm so proud to have
cultivated this audience Jesus Christ
the questions that you guys ask the
insightfulness that you have about
yourselves the level of thoughtfulness
that you have the fact that you
see you don't just accept the situation
for what it is you're questioning the
situation then you're questioning the
question like you are I promise you you
are outliers in a room of outliers so I
really really hope that you go home
realizing just how [ __ ] rarified it
is to work this hard on yourselves and
I'm so I'm so proud to have you as an
audience
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uh I hate to feel all self-righteous and
like I Begg the question but that
personal growth guilt thing that I
mentioned earlier on sounds an awful lot
like what you're dealing with right
there's this sense that it would be
Noble to sort of stay behind in some way
that who am I to have this have like
been blessed with this thing even though
you've worked for it even though you've
done all of the work right but I I don't
know if do I deserve it why am I
supposed to do this um honestly man this
is the ruthless like last page of this
lonely
chapter and unfortunately it's like a a
cliffhanger right the way up to the end
in my
experience for me I had the fortune
twice of moving I moved once when I went
from college to University and then I
moved once when I left nightlife to go
to America to do the podcast so that
kind of created a geographic net around
me
tactically one of the things that you
could try and do is actually physically
change the routine maybe moving a little
bit um I'm sure that that's something
that you've considered but it really
helped me because it changed the
patterns it changed the thought
processes that I had the other thing and
I've said it a couple of times tonight
is consider this the cost of doing
business would you trade all of the
things that you love about your new life
in order to get rid of the guilt about
the last one that you've had to leave
behind probably not so dude this is the
price of success and no one wants to
[ __ ] hear this no one wants to hear
champagne problems like a rich guy
talking about how hard it is to submit
his taxes like oh my God all of the
problems of success and finally
achieving a life I'm proud of look at
all of the stuff that's come along with
it so give yourself a little bit of
Grace you deserve to feel good about
what you've done thank you so much
thanks Chris
guys [ __ ] hell
but