Video summary
The video opens with a shocking revelation regarding the owner of the San Francisco 49ers, who was arrested in connection with a prostitution sting. The speaker uses this high-profile incident to illustrate a profound societal lesson about the nature of desire and discipline, noting the irony that a billionaire with access to private jets, mansions, and unlimited wealth chose to pay only $140 for sex in a trailer park rather than seeking luxury companionship. This behavior is described as destructive and demonic, suggesting that such actions tear at one's spirit and destroy families. The core argument presented is that money cannot buy happiness and that the pursuit of cheap thrills often stems from a distorted imagination or a desire to fulfill fantasies that contradict one's actual status, ultimately leading men down a path of degradation rather than fulfillment.
Beyond the specific case of the football owner, the speaker broadens the discussion to include women who also consume adult content, emphasizing that this habit is equally damaging regardless of gender. He argues that many people do not realize how their daily consumption of pornography and similar media on phones and laptops shapes their behavior and desires, eventually leading them to act out those fantasies in real life. The transcript highlights a common vice among high earners, such as drinking alcohol excessively early in the morning while traveling, which serves as another example of habits that slowly erode health and judgment. The speaker stresses that everyone has vices, but the key difference lies in mindfulness and intentionality; failing to control these impulses can lead to cheating, lying, stealing, or other destructive behaviors that ruin lives and relationships.
The narrative then shifts to a personal reflection on marriage, entrepreneurship, and the heavy responsibilities of providing for a family, including caring for aging parents and a mother-in-law who sacrificed greatly for the speaker's wife's education. The speaker contrasts his own disciplined approach to life with the chaotic choices made by others, noting that while he faces immense stress from running a business and coaching clients, he refuses to seek relief through infidelity or other unhealthy outlets. He challenges men to find their backbone and strength by abstaining from things that break them down slowly, urging them to view marriage as a healthy institution rather than a burden. Instead of running away from the difficulties of life or blaming the system, he advocates for returning to one's commitments with a renewed determination to do the right thing and raise the next generation correctly.
In conclusion, the speaker calls on men to take personal responsibility for their actions and to seek accountability within a supportive community rather than isolating themselves in destructive habits. He promotes his "Purpose Pushers" community as a place where individuals can find motivation, share struggles, and receive feedback to help them stay focused and avoid falling into traps like pornography or infidelity. By joining such a group, men can get out of their comfort zones, build a tribe that holds them accountable, and ultimately save their lives and families from the slow decay caused by unchecked vices. The video ends with an invitation for viewers to engage with this community, attend upcoming calls, and commit to a lifestyle of discipline and purpose, reinforcing the message that it is never too late to make better choices and rebuild one's life on a foundation of integrity.
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Hey, hey, Tony Gaskins here. Now, this
is the kind of stuff that we cannot
explain and saw this
49ers owner, which obviously is a
billionaire,
arrested in a prostitution sting, and
that's just absolutely crazy.
And to the fellows who end up seeing
this, that's something that
you really got to take personal as a
man. Like, you got to take pride in
being able to develop the discipline.
And it's going to start with what you're
watching on your phone and on your
laptop. It's going to start with you
cutting out those subscriptions or the
free sites or apps where you're going to
watch that stuff. And for the women,
too.
I didn't know women watch that stuff,
but I've been learning that women watch
the the corn, too.
And it's destroying you from the inside
out. It's destructive. It is demonic.
It's taking hold of your mind or your
heart, your spirit. It's going to rip
everything out of you. It's going to
destroy your life, destroy your family,
and we see it happening. So, look at
this right here with this guy who is a
billionaire,
could have anything he wants in the
world, private jet, mansions,
fly around the world, could go to any
sporting event, any music event, can go
to any island,
anywhere in the world, and
they say he was going to a a trailer
park to have sex with a prostitute for
$140.
And that also shows the sadness, too, of
just how money can't buy happiness and
how having it all, like, instead of
getting the most beautiful prostitute in
the world who works out of a mansion for
1400 an hour or 14,000 an hour. He went
to $140.
And
it just is crazy. It's sad.
And that that right there
is just another sign in our society.
And I really want men to take this
personal.
Not in a
Yada the awakening way. I ain't coming
to you like that trying to tell you one
thing and me be doing another, but you
got to realize like all of us have that
access to go pay for some behind from
one of these women that's out here and
that's what they do for a living. But we
making different choices.
And to the 49ers owner, you need to go
on sit down with me. Need to go on bring
out there put me on retainer with them
49ers. Cuz if you doing it, your player
might be doing it, too.
And that's essentially what I did with
the NBA team is just try to help the
players become men.
Help them learn how to move right and
act right and live right. And one of
those situations of
it is a lot of this nonsense and
tomfoolery going on and a lot of people
don't realize it all start with that
stuff you watching
on your phone. And
then you want to fulfill it. You want to
fulfill the fantasy and your imagination
gets the best of you.
So
here this man is, he takes and he he
goes and
he got it all could have it all and he
say he want him some trailer park
behind.
And he want to go
get it out the mud. He wanted dirty.
He wanted ripping and raw.
And that's just that's sad. It's It's
disgusting and and it show you how
the fantasies go the opposite of what
you have. So, when you don't have
anything, then you want to
get this luxury experience and then when
you got everything, you want this trashy
experience.
And this is a grown man at the highest
level of living.
And when you think about this and this
is what I try to
remind you
and keep you mindful of the fact that
you have these people who
This the highest level of living like
this.
This is your principal. This could be
your police officer, your politician.
And and we see these things. And and
men,
we have to do better.
And we all going to have a vice. Like we
all going to go through something. We
all going to feel a certain way.
And we all to a certain degree
kill ourselves in one way or another.
So,
for me, it may be instead of cheating on
my wife,
I might have me a old-fashioned.
And even though I'm not getting drunk
and I'm behind closed doors,
and I don't even like alcohol. It just
telling myself, "Oh, I'm winding down."
or I'm grown.
But,
what does that alcohol do to the liver?
Or the kidney, whichever one it affect.
And so, it has an effect. And so, I had
to realize that and realize like, "Hey,
if you mess around and this become a
habit, and this ain't some social that
you're doing,
you know, when you're out to dinner and
when you're with a group of people and
y'all just adults and you're drinking
responsibly or whatever, you're having a
drink, but if this thing get out of hand
and you end up got to be doing this
every day or multiple times a day." And
I started to realize it when I got on
the plane and I would see
people ordering
alcohol at 8:00 in the morning, 9:00 in
the morning. And And I'm I'm looking at
them and I'm like, "You look regular.
Like, you don't look like no drunk.
But, why are you drinking
at 8:00 in the morning? Like, my
goodness, you're drinking 8:00 in the
morning, you must be drinking all day,
every day." And then I started to think,
"Well, do alcohol kill bacteria in your
stomach or something?" Cuz
you people I'm looking at that drinking
8:00, 9:00, 10:00 in the morning, they
look normal.
You expect them to look like
all frazzled and
And this be in first class. So, I'm
like, "These is high earners. These this
top 10% in America
sitting up here drinking at 8:00 in the
morning."
And so, we all have our little vices and
stuff like that, but you got to be
mindful and you got to be intentional.
And to the men, you know, I just want to
challenge you as a man. Like, right now,
I'm
going through in my head and I'm
thinking about, cuz me being a thinker,
I may want to bring up a conversation.
That's something I seen online or
something I'm thinking about. But, it
may be a conversation my wife don't want
to have. And so, I could just be
introducing
just nothingness or just stress or
whatever. And so, for me on the mental
side of things, I have to realize like,
"Okay, Tony, get on your microphone and
talk to your audience. Like, don't don't
everything got to be brought to your
wife. Everything you thinking,
everything you feeling." And that take a
lot of discipline.
It takes discipline to get to that place
to where what you want to do that you
know may not be advantageous or healthy,
you don't do it. And
because you understand what it's doing
to you or what it's doing to somebody
else or the personality types. And so, I
could bring up a a conversation that a
certain personality type would love the
conversation and then engage and then go
back and forth and talk about it and
explain it. But, I know my wife
personality type, she kind of is more so
sensitive and she she may feel like it's
a confrontational topic or this a
accusatory or it's this or that. And so,
I'm very mindful with what I bring to
her from my audience and from the
internet. And
I have to process that. And then the
same thing with like, if you want to go
watch corn or if you want to go cheat or
if you want to argue or if you want to
lie or you want to steal or you want to
do this, you want to do that, you have
to find a healthy alternative. You got
to find an outlet. You got to get to a
place to where you could take and do
something different. And you get to that
place to where you you say, "Okay, hey,
hold on now. Let me take
and figure out what can I do." So, for
me as a man, as a faithful man, like
Thursday, I'm going to the Hamptons for
uh like a
private dinner type
get-together, networking type thing, and
then Friday it's like a bigger event
at the same
you know, man's mansion at the in the
Hamptons and not no Diddy party,
business party, investors and pro
athletes and
you know, tech founders and stuff like
that. And so, I'm going there as a tech
founder and a speaker
and a personal brand.
And that that's that get me out the
house. I get to see people, meet people,
have good conversations
and that's like a high, that
exploration.
When FIFA was just here
I ain't have it. I ain't I you know, I
couldn't afford it, but
I went ahead and sprung for it, and I
went to a game in Toronto, a game in Los
Angeles, a game in Houston, and a game
in Miami.
And in Miami I took
my whole family
and then in Houston I took one of my
videographers from my production company
cuz he played soccer in high school, so
I took him. His ticket was about $1,500.
And then in Toronto I took my oldest
son, and then in LA I went by myself.
And
that cost.
That cost probably, you know, I don't
know in total. It could have
you know, them four games could have
cost me
20,000 or something, but
when you think about it, what would it
cost me
if I cheat on my wife?
And I think a lot of men don't think
about that. And and there's so many guys
that's knocking marriage and hating on
marriage
not realizing nothing wrong with
marriage. Marriage isn't broken.
You're broken.
That's what you have to realize. There's
nothing wrong with marriage.
Marriage marriage
does what it does. It's a healthy union.
It's a healthy institution.
The problem with marriage is the people
going into the marriage.
And so
men are saying I'll never get married
again. I lost everything or I lost too
much.
That's what you deserve. That's what you
should have lost. That's what you want
to lose. You want that
lesson. You want to be punished and
reprimanded,
chastised
for doing things the wrong way. That's
what you want.
Because if you don't get that,
you will never learn.
So instead of running away from it, no,
run back to it and say this next time
I'm going to be better.
This next time I'm going to do the right
thing. I'm going to do what I'm supposed
to do this next time.
I'm going to do right.
And that's what you supposed to do. You
you go after it. You go to get it.
And don't look at it like, oh, this an
issue, this a problem.
Like marriage ain't good for me. No.
And so I I think about it and I'm like,
you know what? And I got to go into this
cerebral stoic place.
Because as life gets harder, like it's
so many people writing me
that are down bad. And they don't
realize like I got to stay up. I got to
feed my family. I'm an entrepreneur.
Like I got to figure it out. I got to
make business work. I don't get a check
every 2 weeks.
Like I got to get up and grind.
And and I got to do what I got to do,
and that's not that's not easy.
It ain't hard I mean it ain't easy being
creative
and
ingenuitive and coming up with stuff and
and I have to give of myself.
Because I just got off a coaching call.
I got another coaching call coming up
in 39 minutes.
And that's draining.
And it only and it don't even pay one
bill.
So a coaching call might pay the phone
bill.
And
but it's like
so to so to pay a bill
at
the level of living
that I'm at, I might have to do
five, six coaching calls.
You only got but so many hours in a day.
And then you talking to people and they
have their issues and what they going
through. So now
they pulling from me.
Because they they dumping on me, so they
pulling from me. So I get off the call,
I'm drained.
And because I'm helping them solve their
problems, but I still got to come back
to my problems and the stuff I got to
solve and figure out in my life.
Like right now I take care of my mom and
my mother-in-law.
And that's two bills that I wish I did
not have,
but to not have them would mean they
would be dead.
So I'd rather them be alive than me not
have them as
two responsibilities, but
it's just the way the mop flops and the
way the cookie crumbles, as my college
football coach would say. And
so
think about if every Monday
you had to give your mom $750.
And that's what I do.
And every month in a lump sum give my
mother-in-law
2,500
for her rent.
And then her car and car note
comes to
about $1,350.
And and that's because
when you elevate to
a certain quality of life,
it's almost torture and unfair
for the people closest to you to watch
you elevate.
And so
with all that my mother-in-law
sacrificed for my wife to get to college
and get through college and get a
master's degree
after coming over from Jamaica, me being
her husband and me providing for my
wife,
I have to also provide for my
mother-in-law because it's what my wife
would do if she was working a job. And
if she had become a doctor as she was
set out to do.
And that's just the responsibility that
God allowed me to be able to to take
care of, but
if I was working a different type of job
or making less money, which you know,
money goes up and down as an
entrepreneur, so you got to be ready and
able to adjust. And you got to be
willing to put the work in. You know,
you got to put the work in. And and it's
it's giving a lot.
And so that's the thing that that a lot
of people don't realize or understand.
And
I carry a lot of stress.
So I could go out and and get my jump
off. I go get my jump off and say, "Oh,
this how I'mma ease my stress." Go out
here and sleep with this woman, sleep
with this woman, sleep with this woman.
Do this right here, do this right here.
Oh, I'm finna be one of these
polygamists and have multiple women or
what have you.
And it's like, you know, that that stuff
it it seemed cool in the moment,
but it just don't last
long term. And so, I really want to
challenge the men
find your backbone.
Find your strength, find your outlet,
and abstain from the things that you
know
are not moving your life forward.
Abstain from the things that you know is
breaking you down
and killing you slowly.
And get to that place and that point to
where
you can find you a healthy, wholesome
outlet, and you can do the right thing.
I would love la la la la la la
to be able to trade places with the
owner of the of them 49ers, and be the
owner of the 49ers. Like, man, that's a
problem I want.
I want that problem, and I want that
life for me and my family. Shoot, be
getting to go to all the games and all
of that and
go in there I go in there and give a
motivational speech to the team if I
want to, whenever I want to. I'm I'm the
owner.
Then get to pass the team down to my
sons. Like, listen, y'all,
if the Lord mess around and bless me,
I'm buying me 10% of a protein
to put that in the trust and pass it
down
to my sons. And have them pass it down
and raise they raise they kids, sons and
daughters the right way, so that we the
Gaskins keep 10% of this here team, this
organization till they sell it.
And and cash out. Or not might sell it
buy at 50 then sell my stake at 60 65 so
I can live off that money.
I don't know if I want my great
grandkids to be
eating off my money.
It's like shoot.
That little like the life this man out
here going to trailer park to get him a
little piece of behind.
For $140 come on now.
You got to do better than that now.
And that's the same thing though. So if
this man can end up in that place
and do something like that
any man can.
We all can fail. We all can can fall
down. We all can go through that.
And that's what we got to realize like
it's not
worth it. It ain't worth it.
And we got to be stronger. We got to get
to a place
we got to get to a place to where
we can do better.
And you got to start taking
taking the action
and finding
your outlet. Find your tribe. Join us in
the purpose pushes.
You struggling with motivation, you
don't know your purpose or you know your
purpose but struggling to activate, you
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get out your comfort zone
and save yourself save your life
and that's what we got to get to you got
to find something different
got to find some accountability
got to
and it ain't going to be easy but you
got to do it
so hey
this Tony Gaskins
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