2 weeks on tour in Australia.

[Music] ladies and gentlemen Chris Williamson in Brisbane and I've been here for two days and I'm trying to fix my sleeping pattern before my first live show tomorrow currently my energy is propped up on a combination of stimulants and Big Dreams I'm really excited to run the show it's the most excited I've been for any of them so we got three shows Brisbane Melbourne Sydney in the last 150 years there have been four devastating floods on the river the first was in 1893 and I can barely remember that one the second flood which caused more yeah a picture kangaroo Whisperer okay doesn't like that okay how you feeling for the show once I get out on stage Everything feels much better so I'm looking forward to just getting the [ __ ] out there how do you feel like Preamble wise between I mean it's been a year since the first in some ways more comfortable but then you keep ratcheting the difficulty up because you just keep adding people yeah so tonight's the biggest show we've ever done and then Friday's the biggest show we've ever done and then Saturday's the biggest show we've ever done and then 3 weeks on Thursday it's the biggest show we've ever done just keeps on getting bigger world class at not staying in my comfort zone do you see what's over here let's do it [Applause] petition for Chris to wear that on the next cinema episode fed a kangaroo caught a bit too much sun need to just go lie down jet legs sliding itself inside of me in a very ungentle manner so see you later on like he was always just I was worried he was a bit welome M how you so much F they're a bit hot a little bit clammy mate I me Vegas I think was my best condition now I'm like slipping a bit I'm trying to wake myself up I feel [ __ ] very very tired quite lightheaded maybe training will make it wor maybe it'll make it better but whatever uh meanwhile [ __ ] Republic is on fire because it looks like Donald Trump might win the election so just goes to show that the further you get away from something geographically the less of a problem it is I I don't even know that's happening checking on the daily wire every half an hour see how many cities are on fire do some more lateral races [Music] so it's slept all right but I know I don't feel right quite Spacey the same way I've been feeling for of the last two months or so I managed to knock most of that out of me I thought before I came out here but then 23 hours of travel and a 15-hour time change and all the rest of it might have kicked some of that back up I don't know like my biggest fear throughout all of this year basically building up to November was don't be [ __ ] on stage don't be stupid and and make mistakes and and mess up on stage in front of all of these people such a big thing like you're in front of all of these people there's nowhere to [ __ ] hide this is one of the ones where it's a very public Victory or public loss where you either perform well or you perform poorly so we'll see how much preparation can carry you through even if your body in your brain doesn't want you to do it so 5 6 7 8 9 10 hey heyy 1 2 3 it's the smallest show of this tour and also the biggest show I've ever done at the same time so you know you got to ease into it so we got from here to Melbourne you know much about Melbourne nothing good coffee apparently yeah food food's good culture's good it's very it reminds you mostly of the UK because you've got that kind of M Metropolitan culture but not the good weather the weather there is crazy like you'll leave the house the middle of the summer right yeah but it's volatile to the point that you might wake up put a hoodie on 20 minutes later it's 35 degrees and then it's pissing it down like a few hours later but the culture if you some people I think love it there because it reminds me of the UK but Melbourne has got that kind of you know when you're in London summer people are drinking you're like oh this is cool [Music] [Applause] [Music] now when Chris was doing this activ very well we decided to add m to the war in Hope for maybe being living in Australia none social media follow him can for tickets the first thing that happened was a message from someone saying I was Keen to come to chy show if you remove that tip Jam snet I'm all like you to come [Music] ladies and gentlemen Chris [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] Williamson how you H yeah thank you for being here this is my first ever show in Australia so far what have I learned I've learned that there's really only two types of uh bodybuild in Australian people either the hyperfit lksd total Fusion performance only fans influencer physique or Burnaby Joyce only two uh great coffee great mullets in life we must choose our regrets what the [ __ ] does that mean I've never considered life that way i' gone through life with the assumption that it's somehow possible to have no regrets at all if you make the precise right choices at the right moments then maybe you could completely avoid regret I presumed that any regret is essentially the side effect of a suboptimal decision I'd never considered that regrets could be unavoidably baked into the fabric of Life they're features not bugs hi you're talking about doing the thing aot a quote that you shared a while ago was the magic that you seek is in the things that you're avoiding or the work that you're avoiding yes um I'm just wondering how this applies to yourself in the sense that you've sort of said that you know you've had a really successful year this year but internally you kind of struggl I'm just wondering what's actually missing in your life at the moment what's the things you should be doing yeah [ __ ] me um one thing I will say about this audience they're very smart and incisive with their questions um look if you posit an ideal you begin to compare yourself to that ideal you will inevitably find yourself lacking right so if you're someone that has big dreams for yourself a lot of the time you will fall short of some unreasonable set of goals it's one of the reasons why when you look at the CEOs of Fortune 500 companies you can look at them with Envy or admiration or whatever what you really should look at them with is pity you go oh my God what's Driven that person to do that thing to themselves or their life or their sleep pattern or their in a monologue for so long so I'm trying to unpack why I've been driven to do this I think a lot of it [ __ ] it I nearly cried on stage I might as well tell you my entire life history I think a lot of it for me is a need for validation very unpopular as a kid very lonely only child bullied in school had a lot to overcome and I I just really believed that if I was able to be sufficiently impressive to the world that the world would need me and that being needed by the world isn't quite the same as being wanted or being loved but it's a good enough proxy functionally it ends up being not too different I'm trying to work out if you can be world class at something and have fun at the same time I'm interested in investigating whether I can like be great become great and um like love myself at the same time so I think a lot of people's desire for success is born out of Need for validation and a desperate fear of not being enough and all that stuff um so that's it it's it's not like there's anything particularly missing it's much more ingrained than that it's more Source Cod you know it's the foundation that I'm built on and uh I've got better I've got better at being able to Pat myself on the back like I've literally got the bottom of my notes here I've got a note written from me to me that says you did it in a pink love heart um I'm not kidding if I could [ __ ] turn this around i' shook you um I'm getting better at doing that and again I tried to like do something that felt a bit tactical cuz I can just throw quotes at you all day to try and this if you're someone that needs constant reminders of like you did it or this is good or whatever the most like 1930s solution Post-it notes just written and put around your house on the front of my fridge I have what would you tomorrow want you today to do like the best place to have it as you're like eyeing up maybe breaking a diet or something for the evening um I have you once dreamt of this on the front door of my house and I forget the fact that I worked for so hard for so long to get out to America and I just [ __ ] take it for granted every single day uh so yeah little Post-it notes may help if that answer resonated with you all right next question if there is an ick around men sharing their feelings and having to be at a certain status before we are allowed to share our feelings MH what is something that I we can do to change that it's it's um first off it's bottom up not top down it's like somebody's come in and dictated like find that low status man that's talking about his emotions weird like no one's coming in and telling us to do that like just [ __ ] comes out of somewhere I think we need better conversations around it we need better role models uh it's one of the reasons that I really appreciate seum Chris that he's someone that guys want to be and he's talking about doing the emotions thing so I think Chris fills that slot hopefully I can start to help at least a little bit but it's something I'm actively working on to try and unpack that conversation what does a healthier version of men talking about emotions like a a prideful not in the bad way but like it's something that makes me feel Pride to be able to do this doesn't make me feel weak doesn't make me feel vulnerable it's like something that people positively uh positively disposed to because if you think a guy that's talking about his emotions is weak think about how weak the guy that can't talk about his emotions is at least that's the way I see it ladies and gentlemen I've been Chris William since thank you so much for tonight we have a backdrop Str a fuing back curtain a curtain Wow We Roll here hi M and daughter thank you very much for apprciate cheers what are you doing for men I appreciate that start the men SC inspired by your work question for you hit me who has been the hardest guest to get on your podcast and how did you get it David gogins it took about 9 months I said I will move Heaven and Earth I'll change the date I'll come to you I'll bring you to me I'll do whatever you need and then they came back we're like all right we'll do it and he only did two podcasts he did Rogan you did mine and he was like done with podcast didn't [ __ ] myself no that was great crowd was awesome [ __ ] me the questions are so good also I'll go toe to- Toe with anyone I've got the most jacked audience in the world the best condition audience brilliant Aussie crowds are amazing roll on [Music] Melbourne you now never seem so well walking in line never made my sense cuz this good woman is M Hill slept for 10 hours and I feel like British Jesus I think we might be going yeah we might be slightly going the I feel good man you know the first one was nerve-wracking so I didn't really get to actually enjoy the show uh I was very much in fear I was like gripping a lot trying so I really want to be as present as possible I'm allowed one where I'm sort of dialing in and I'm claing and you know fearful but uh I just want to have fun tonight beautiful it's to dose this isn't it that may be just the zestiest thing I've ever seen you do we're in Australia can't say that here F it's the last chance Tak can be zesty before I get back to Trump's American we can chop a bit out of this tiny little bit it's just a little bit slow if you can make it come together and still make sense I think that would be that' be good but that's really L good to see you man yeah good to see you too bro it's it's cool to see you here there [ __ ] great coffee it's honestly such a like England has good coffee but not to Hype it up but every coffee I've had in Melbourne is like and there's snobby about it too I like have you heard this before I like El yeah yeah I I like the elit yeah yeah yeah they really look down on other countries coffee and will like openly [ __ ] on it and it's one of the only places where like there are Starbucks here but it hasn't gotten a proper foothold purely because of the snobbery yeah genuinely cheers man thank you for having me thank you for coming see me well Chin [Music] Chin I think this is our first time meeting TR again go a little bit deeper there that's perfect yeah yourself you may not be able to tell but James has a racist accent yeah and you know what now Trump interesting now Trump in you're allowed you're free to use it yeah yeah yeah well that's this was something Rob Henderson taught me about the the male monkey dance um so if you look at the way that guys outside of a nightclub someone's bumped into someone downstairs or talked to someone's bird or whatever and they go upstairs and if you look at the typical stages that male aggression goes through it tracks the same with monkeys tracks the same with Stags so first off there'll be a circling like that or maybe they'll just sort of keep circling like that and then they'll usually come in and there'll be some sort of like a like a push which is a test of strength they'll do that and then only after all of that is there a big a big overhand right but the male monkey dance but the interesting thing that Rob talked about was that there's no point no young dude 20s full of testosterone knocks out a grandmother even if she pisses him off because it's not a fair fight the reason that you have a fight is that you have two people of potentially similar but as yet undetermined levels of strength and formidability and we don't know let's put it to the test but if there's an obvious imbalance what was the point in doing in any case and what that comes across as is like sympathy or disgust or like an ick or you know uh somebody being predatory but what that actually is is just like an inbuilt sense of well this was never a fair fight in terms of formidability so there's no status gains from winning what you get froming out an old man and then the other side is that like you often see like even when even when a gorilla could beat another gorilla they actually don't engage in the combat right um they just try to Bluff charge them away and that's thought to be partially because of the physical costs of winning a fight like I remember waking up one morning after a boxing match that I had as a kid and literally there was blood on my face cuz my nose started bleeding again in the night was stiff as a board I had bruises all over my shoulder from you know deflecting blows that kind of thing um front shoulder especially and I thought to myself I was like oh my gosh that was a fight that I won right like that's what like I knocked the guy out in the third round and that was about where I was supposedly the winner and yet the next day I was like basically unable to get out of bed in a suburb that's no big deal right I could just you know kind of Limp to school the next day uh but if you're in the jungle or on the Savannah or something and you're just winning fight right there's a cost that you're paying I'm trying to think of the angle I'm trying to think of a title and thumbnail trying to think of something the is Chris Williamson on steroids did very well but I'm thinking maybe there's a another angle wide angle lens walking into picture beautiful Sundown bit of music maybe we put the footage at a 75 speed we get yeah beautiful artistics maybe a little awful would you be open to me doing a YouTube video where Chris Williamson versus 100 models and we create like a love Island 2.0 scenario I would be Avers to that yeah how does someone win over the love of Chris Williamson just being peaceful and [ __ ] normal would they have to live would they have to live in Austin or would you like it more like they live in Dallas so you can see each TR at weekends but you're not hanging out just for the sake of hanging out it's [ __ ] tough that I did the longdistance thing for so long it's really really tough is she American or is she not American I don't mind she's probably going to be a bit younger four years as the average app isn't it uh I'll ask Mack he'll know he'll know the data he'll know like the data from last week he does know the data when you have gone through life envisioning an age in which you would potentially be in a serious relationship with a family how old were you younger than 36 so at the moment we could imagine that your professional priorities are here your personal ones are here do you ever a feel that you're going to have to put your hands onto those levers and crank one up and the other one down I think so but I kind of look forward to that uh I've worked really really hard oh know for a long time at the same thing like it's been accumulate skills money status blah blah blah I'm really looking forward to actually applying some of that effort to a human that's you know mine my genetic is isy and you know build with some growth-minded woman as well that's peaceful and wants to dedicate herself to becoming better for her and for me and for us lovely feels like every working class Northern Town in England [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] pretty [ __ ] cool how old is this place uh 1920s old [Music] social media I used to use it to get girls and now I use it to find rooms let me tell you this right between 100 and 300,000 followers you get the post person after a million it's like don't even bother it's [ __ ] tumble we in your DMs because they think you're unobtainable [Music] oh know I didn't just I was [Music] [Applause] [Music] question is what suggestions do you have for somebody to overcome imposter syndrome for somebody who is doing the thing but moved to another country as a migrant and has also faced a little bit of racism awesome question look if you're doing a thing that you haven't done yet impostor syndrome isn't impostor syndrome it's just a natural reflection that you have of no evidence being there that you can yet do it I I think imposter syndrome in many ways is Noble because it's you proving to yourself I'm not going to get too big for my own Boots the problem comes when you have continued to disprove those doubts in the real world and the impostor syndrome persists after a while you have to just admit to yourself that it's got nothing to do with this balance between your competence level and how much you believe in yourself and everything to do with this addiction to feeling like an imposter first off if you are dealing with the difficult from outside try as hard as you can to find people like the people in this room who would [ __ ] love to be friends with you and would love to support you and would love to make you into a better person right that's the first place it's hard enough to do stuff yourself without people holding you back around you secondly I would say impostor syndrome is a byproduct of having high standards for yourself you posit an ideal you compare yourself to that ideal you find find yourself lacking the reason that you're getting the outcomes that you want right now lower than they may be or lower than you may want them to be already is only because of the fact that you have those high standards for yourself this is something that is driving you to do more now it can be toxic when you use it for too long because it permanently keeps you in that Gap right hell is when the person that you are meets the person you could have been but you're going to continue to keep closing that Gap over and over and over again find the right people to put around you realize that the impostor syndrome is there for a reason it's guiding you towards something that you care about that's really [ __ ] awesome and it's because you have high standards because you care because you're Earnest because you're serious about the things that you're trying to do and if the price that you have to pay to take things seriously and be Earnest and actually achieve something in this world is sometimes feeling like you might not be worthy of being there that's a price that you should pay all [ __ ] day in the constant Pursuit for purpose it always feels like treading water you never stop Treading Water you're always working towards it it is a constant struggle and it's so easy just to drop the light mhm how did you stay above water in some ways I'm still in the trenches with you I think not fighting against it is a good place to start all right I have to work to find some meaning in my life maybe there are easier ways to do it maybe you're trying to find it from the wrong place but if you're batt against it why why do I have to work so hard to do that it's like I mean gravity is heavy as well why is it there just it just is it's a slightly unsatisfactory answer but I get the sense that as soon as you can relinquish the fight against it and go okay I need to find purpose in life where are the places I can get that from from my partner from the people around me from the stuff that I contribute maybe I can get some Pathways that give me more purpose more quickly but the need for purpose I don't think is ever going to go away and there are other people who don't even know that purpose is a [ __ ] thing that they need in life and you don't want to be one of them ladies and gentlemen we did [Applause] it be block [ __ ] the [Applause] UFC is the same blow yeah I know and then it landed upright as well perfectly I know yeah but it's legendary moment that's my shoe thanks very much for coming to really apprciate you can be very proud of yourself I appreciate you resonates so much with what you say I just loved it [ __ ] loved it doing very well after listening to you for a couple hour [ __ ] me look at the size of this audience I I can't say it so I really can't give you get home safe I appreciate you it was awesome this was nearly double what we did in Brisbane and then tomorrow is bigger again so it was awesome crowd was great tomorrow travel day traveling to Sydney and got the show on the night fuing hell no Sydney last night of tour I can't wait tonight's going to be epic I don't think we have that much time we just landed a minute ago James we're in Sydney what should I expect that a good crowd I'm interested to see the demographic one of the cultural differences here is like when I was here with the lads you get a message boy 6 a.m. it's one of the boys birthdays meet at the beach you're down there 5:45 one of the girls brings a cake you having a swim to celebrate someone's birthday first in the UK not happening oh do you want to meet poor work tomorrow shut your mouth walk around with [ __ ] I've got a [Music] couple if you're interested I get some it's big it's really [ __ ] big Jesus what's up dude how are you how you doing good to meet you you all right what is this you got just film one another like a Black Mirror look look at this guy he's he's a younger cuter you he's before Bob say hi to every we got something coming in nice to [Laughter] meet what I'm nice to meet you how are you [ __ ] sake it's real huh M look at how strong he is dud huh look at this though nice tell him what you're going to do tell him what's going on with you I'm going to get ripped he's going to get jacked that' be dangerous and when people doubt you what do you say why see him back up Qui see how [ __ ] nervous he got move really quick he backed up dude there's nothing scarier than a shredded Asian guy ripped Asian guys are the white Muslims of the East that's right that's right nothing [ __ ] scarier than a white Muslim guy they don't like this the women who doesn't the women the girls yeah they don't like the girls love this if you got shredded you've got a foa thank you see I wish you were like him no that's an insult Bud it is yeah what is it it's a fat upper [ __ ] area [ __ ] [ __ ] oh you laughing huh English faster English faster you want to do this around have fun tonight I love you man hang one day was born in D 188 aristoc parents we put this kind of power in the of those our hello hi I'm Charlotte and when did you start to accept advice from other people and why I mean how old are you Charlotte nine nine wow me and James said some really really bad things she's Australian it's all good it took me quite a while to properly take advice from other people because you don't understand your own level of inexperience it oddly enough takes experience to understand how little you know right which is this curse the very beginning is when you need the advice the most and yet you're blind to how much you need it so for me it took a very long time I would say honestly my mid to late 20s before I genuinely started to put stock in other people's opinions about what I was doing I don't think actually listen to Mom and Dad as much as I should have done either so to like just put a little bit of good pennies back in the jar after I've certainly withdrawn them the two people sat either side of you might be a good place to start first of all yeah I just want to extend a massive thank you just for the content that you put out there it's undoubtedly changed my life and I'm sure I speak on behalf of everyone here so cheers for that mate I've come to a point where I'd say I'm Crossing Borders out of the Lonely chap I've managed to find success in a entrepreneurial path which uh it sees me beginning to live a different life that you know no one I really grew up with now can continue to relate to as I see this life that I once used to live you know in the rear viw mirror as I'm sort of pulling away there's this overarching Melancholy how do I let go of this so I don't come in and sour this new chapter that is now on my doorstep with the child in me so desperately wanting to run back and the adult knowing that I need to March forward oh my god [Music] [Applause] dude I just before I say this you know I didn't get a chance to say it in Brisbane or in Melbourne you guys are so [ __ ] smart I'm so proud to have cultivated this audience Jesus Christ the questions that you guys ask the insightfulness that you have about yourselves the level of thoughtfulness that you have you don't just accept the situation for what it is you're questioning the situation and you're questioning the question like you are I promise you you are outliers in a room of outliers so I really really hope that you go home realizing just how [ __ ] rarified it is to work this hard on yourselves and I'm so I'm so proud to have you as an audience honestly man this is the ruthless last page of this lonely chapter and unfortunately it's like a a cliffhanger right the way up to the end in my experience consider this the cost of doing business would you trade all of the things that you love about your new life in order to get rid of the guilt about the last one that you've had to leave behind probably not so dude this is the price of success and no one wants to [ __ ] hear this no one wants to hear champagne problems like a rich guy talking about how hard it is to submit his taxes like oh my God all of the problems of success and finally achieving a life I'm proud of look at all of the stuff that's come along with it so give yourself a little bit of Grace you deserve to feel good about what you've done thank you so much thanks Chris guys [ __ ] hell this is the last show of the tour in Australia you guys the Australian the nation of Australia has been so good to me and I'm so happy to have you guys here I really really hope that you took a lot away from it uh I'm glad that no one threw a shoe on stage this time no no maybe at the meet and greet uh look I appreciate the living [ __ ] out of all of you thank you so much for [Applause] [Music] coming good night ladies and [Applause] gentlemen awesome dude awesome thank you for being here thank you both for being here as well I hope you enjoyed seeing what we got up to behind the scenes I've got a couple of days left in Australia so uh I'm going to actually get to enjoy it without the Spectre of fearing whether or not I'm going to mess up looming over me but appreciate you first impressions Chris Sydney Opera House nice that nice that right Preddy 32 minutes L they bombing him2 I'm happy they're bombing him 32 minutes late that's like you like to turn up late do you want to film the boat we just missed we'll just get the next [Music] one Luke just threw Alex's overboard I didn't evening it was accident [Music] accident Australia is fun it's very similar to the UK in many ways I wish that I'd been less scared in the leadup to the tour because I wasn't sure if I was actually going to be able to make it or if I did make it how well it was going to go my brain and energy haven't exactly been on top form this year and uh that meant there was a lot of sort of fear and and gripping and and concern in the buildup to this made it work and preparation beforehand working hard with diet and sleep and prioritizing all of the things that m mattered really made a big difference but I do wish I wish I'd had a little bit more fun in the in the buildup to it so that's a good lesson you know really the only reason that you do these things isn't to say that you did them it's for the experience of doing them and I'm not I'm not coming to do this tour so that I can tell other people that I did a tour coming because I have the memory of what it was like to be on stage in front of 5,000 people on the other side of the planet and if you're not careful you can be so focused on getting the outcome or fearing not getting the outcome that you forget to actually be there while it's happening and that's the entire point of doing it so a good lesson it feels nice to bring it into land in somewhere that I've never been before don't go don't look down I'm in Australia the rest of the world non-australians they wouldn't understand this is a sex crime this is a sex crime outside of this [Music] [Applause] continent try you'll never have to lose let fate decide the inevitable Str blower the stakes no skin in the G nothing wager nothing lost yeah you got to feeling to feel [Applause] something yeah you got a feeling feel something [Music]