1.5M Q&A - Daily Routine, Joe Dispenza & Online Negativity

what's happening people welcome back to the show it is a 1.5 million subscriber Q&A episode it's been a while since I did one of these it's been a busy few months so I apologize for the absence but we got thousands and thousands of questions I've tried to compile them there were a lot that were kind of similar so I've tried to put a bunch together and I'm going to get through as many as I can so let's get into it beyond the mic how do you deal with negativity on the internet I this has been the year that I've tried to rail against cynicism I just I hate it I hate it so much reminds me of all of the sort of narrow-minded very defeatist mentalities that I I really didn't like it's all the worst parts of the UK and I don't like it I I deal with it on the Internet by following as few people as possible so on Twitter I think I follow a 100 people uh I don't spend that much time scrolling Instagram and my YouTube feed is relatively well curated so I just try not to see it that being said said when it comes to comment sections and stuff it's difficult like I wrote this thing the other day which might be I guess interesting at least to listen to um Fame doesn't change you it just changes everyone around you is this quote from Lis Capaldi in a documentary and I reflected on it a lot this year identity lags Reality by one to two years there's a lot of psychological Fallout from a rapid change in status that's from Mark Manson it's jarring when everyone else tells you how great you're doing because you don't feel any different but the world now sees you differently it's like identity dysmorphia and because you forget compliments but remember insults any increase in exposure mostly just feels like an increase in criticism at no point on the journey to becoming heavily scrutinized does anyone teach you how to deal with scrutiny there is no training course for fame or criticism you're just as vulnerable to it as you were when you started but people presume that you accepted the deal of criticism when you decided to build a platform you didn't and that's kind of how I feel at the moment criticism is rough and negativity on the internet doesn't feel very good especially not when it's directed at you so it is a learning process I suppose and that's like perfectly true what I just said there there's no training course there's no point between having 150 subscribers and 1.5 million where someone came along and like bestowed on me the skills to be able to deal with negative things you just like I don't know hope for the best along the way but I appreciate all the people that are positive cuz you really do help ste. vrd hello Chris congratulations on the 1.5 million how is your book coming along and when can we expect it so there are two books in the works at the moment one will be something similar to a more broy version of 12 rules for life modern wisdom style Almanac book still thinking about the value set for that but I'm super excited like all of my news that stuff just gets me super excited about that and then the mating crisis with David bus between those two you will have one within the next it'll be completed within 6 months and it'll be published within 12 so probably start of 25 there'll be something out s m l Ln smallen do you use any time blocking methods to manage your time I know I should Ali abdalah keeps telling me that I should uh and I'm about to switch my productivity system system from omn Focus to tick tick if you listen to the cinema the Christmas episode that I did with the boys in the living room you will know oh by the way for the people that don't recognize where I am like what what's this place that I'm in this is my bedroom in Newcastle the house that I've still got in the northeast of England this is where it all started literally sat right here different mic different camera different desk different everything terrible lighting there was candle stains on the ceiling which Douglas Murray famously pointed out and everyone thought was mold and the Entre entire world was criticizing me about mold uh but yeah I'm back for Christmas I'm back in the UK I'm back in Newcastle it feels very strange um to be back here it's it's really funny for so much to have changed and for you to be in a place that's so familiar and for you to feel quite different in some ways and also still be the same so yeah it's uh it's wild but this is where we are look we've even got the same we got the same lighting you can kind of see that's the vertical bookcase we tried to replicate all of this when I went to Austin so it may seem like Austin was just something we did out of nowhere and then the cinema episodes have tried to match this teal and copper color we do that on the big episodes so it's all stemmed from this this was the Genesis right here I hope you like it um time blocking methods yousef's going to teach me how to use Tik tick that should integrate it I know that I should time block more I use my calendar quite liberally uh but I should time block stuff that doesn't appear on the calendar typically more like tasks the answer is no but I'm guilty and I think that I should Tom bainy what's the biggest change for your next live shows brackets thought they were great thank you for coming Tom um biggest change for the next live shows I'd love to do some more production it was as raw as it gets it's me in front of a screen that's got my name on it talking for 90 minutes and then doing a Q&A so on stage on my own which if you told me I've done that a year ago would have terrified me and still kind of did um but I would like to add a little bit more production in uh some AV stuff you know uh montages uh maybe even scenes from the stuff that I'm talking about you know if I bring up a quote or I bring up an idea or I bring up something we could maybe illustrate that behind me or uh even like cut to the episode and the point in the episode where I learned about it that could be kind of cool love to integrate some music some like touchy feely ascending kind of things but right now I just want to like dial in my ability to feel comfortable on stage especially to crack jokes and do bits and do comedy is a whole other ball game but yeah that's I'm just working on the craft for now I think we can add fluff and do all the rest of it when we try and do the the O2 in London or something big but for now just dial in the craft seesaw seesaw why didn't you do anything for 1 million subscribers fair question there uh yeah I kind of promised you guys a while ago that we would have this like really nice Montage put together or that we would do something special and being honest the last five months I can't remember when we hit one million Subs maybe five months ago the last five months have just been unrelenting uh internally there's a lot of just not uproar just like work that needs doing it's all really fun and I love the guys that are working alongside me but it's just so much man like I've paid quite a high personal price this year to get the show to where it needs to be and that's largely been with very limited time off and a lot of travel and not much time to kind of chill and turn my executive function off um so largely it's just because I didn't have time and that sounds like a bit of a cop out but we didn't and given that we're now closer way closer to 2 million than we are to 1 million I will endeavor to do something actually special uh for 2 million Subs I promise I will try I will try my best uh furry puff skin 6585 do you think that you still have some of the party boy character in you yes uh that degenerate lives sort of deep down and it's very rare that he comes out I think he came out once last year maybe once or twice last year yeah twice twice last year and no times I I think this year uh but I've got stago bachelor party for the Americans uh coming up in itha next year I'll have another trip for George's 30th in Miami on New York so there's a couple of times where he just he crests and sort of Peaks his head over the surface and comes back down uh but that was a huge part of me man like that was you know for a decade and a half professional party boy is not just like a cool way that I put it like I was a fullon did generate for for a good chunk of my 20s and it was very formative and I think so many guys are like how many guys don't just send it for a good chunk of time and that was my career my career was being a party boy like I literally I ran the event I was the guy in the front door with the massive afro that everybody knew so yeah he's he's still a part of me uh he just is he's on extended Hiatus at the moment potentially full retirement use a tl4 40 C5 do8 L need a better username first of all congratulations thank you massive love for what you're doing secondly if you went back in time let's say late teens early 20s would you be able to appreciate all the struggle and negatives you went through to reach the positives or do you believe it is necessary to hate the negatives so that you have a motive to turn it into the positives not entirely sure what that means say would you be able to appreciate all the struggle and negatives you went through to reach the positives if you went back in I don't understand why I'd need to go back in time uh I'll answer it as if I am now um I think that having a chip on your shoulder and trying to prove something to people that doubted you or you don't like or you feel like didn't like you or shunned you or unrequited care or love or whatever it is I think that is important and uh oh there it is again he needs to drink those of us that see the solo episodes know that I need to drink I think that the action threshold that you are required to do that you need to reach in order to do great things in order to really do anything that's kind of difficult you can have the pleasure and the positive drive to go forward and you can have sort of distaste and chips on your shoulder and a hatred desire to push you from behind and a blend of the two seems to be best it's not a fuel that you want to use for too long but it's very very effective at getting you off the line and that's something that I've managed to do and I'm now working on casting off the negatives and kind of that required to prove myself sid7 are you planning on having Lex on your pod also by any chance since you've had a few comedians will you have Nick Mullen or Adam fredman on Nick Mullen I messaged two days ago uh we were dming back and forth I think someone on his team was dming me don't know whether it was Nick um so yeah I'd love to get Nick on I think Nick's fantastic uh Lex we've been talking back and forth I messaged him and congratulated him on the Bezos episode I thought that was really good if you haven't listened to that you should go and check out Jeff Bezos on on Lex's podcast and uh yeah I mean Lex is a busy guy and like gets he's got other things on his mind like for 18 months he was like really personally impacted by Ukraine and that's a bigger priority than me bringing him on we'll get him eventually TMC candles 7 Chris firstly I greatly appreciate work and a continual Improvement in the guests and interviews thank you can I make a suggestion the titles of your podcasts really fail to capture the essence of the interviews and I have missed many a great discussion for instance your Patrick P David interview titled why does no one trust the medor anymore did not remotely capture fantastic discussion my best Tim Tim that's a [ __ ] awesome way to deliver criticism uh very well balanced and I appreciate you for doing it yeah so look titling and thumbnailing on YouTube um I touch I might be setting myself up for a problem in future here I touch every single title and thumbnail that goes out every single one of them and I think we have 2,000 videos two two and a bit thousand videos on the on the Channel all of them I've touched the reason for that is I think it's very important to frame the episodes and the channel is an import in an important way let me give you an example Russell Brand Russell Brand's team knows how to lytically hijack whatever's going on but every single one of those titles make me cringe inside they the it's horrible it's horrible like they are coming for your kids what you don't know what they did it's like oh God guys come on like it's it's the most antagonistic tribal it's it's not good I don't want to play that game there's also different ways that you can do uh titling whereby you put you kind of keyword plug different things um Lex Lex kind of does say it's on almost like a list it's a listicle and we've tried all of the different ones ultimately if you're not happy with the titles that we're giving stop clicking on them because we split test things on the back end we split test tons and tons and tons of titles and we know which ones people click on now obviously there is a way that all of this could just end up toward like the Russell Brand limic hijack thing which we don't want to do so we have it within confines we have parameters of where we're going to allow the titles and thumbnails to go to and beyond that we don't take it there but ultimately the titles are the the titles and thumbnails are the things that people click on because we need to play Within the game of the algorithm you're right maybe uh why does no one trust the media anymore doesn't capture a fantastic discussion but like what does that gets people to click it's very difficult like we tried it's like you know Patrick Bet David a conversation on the challenges of modern like modern culture and media and whether or not he should run for president it's like no one clicks on that we tried so I would be interested in a solution that helps us to hold on to CTR whilst also uh sounding good but for a very long time I fought with titles and thumbs and improving them made a massive change to the growth of the channel I don't think that we played the Olympic hijack game that much we very regularly the boys the copywriters that work for me jod and Chase um will come to me with something and I will say no I'm not prepared to cross that particular line which is totally arbitrary and probably would get us more plays in fact would almost certainly get us more play and I come in with my big like hammer and whack them down and say no sorry too much can't have that too antagonistic too tribal to whatever too accusatory like we've done too many titles that seem like that even if they work so we work really hard to remain like as I would say like uh ethical algo hacking um but yeah we're working hard I promise I promise you trust me we are working very hard to try and find that balance um and yeah I guess just click on everything actually that's a solution just click on everything if you click on everything then it doesn't matter what the title is uh you don't need to miss any of them click on them all timx Fitness what does a full day in the life of what what look like a full day in the life of of a Chris detail from the time you wake up until the time you go to bed do you exercise in the morning do you practice fasting before during a podcast split your work up into blocks a couple of times per day do you work during weekends all right try and blast through this quickly uh wake up 7:00 a.m. in the gym by 740 IAD element and uh some probiotic stuff first thing before I leave train get back some sort of protein shake or some eggs then sit down at my desk by 9:00 a.m. we'll tend to catch up because the first video will go live at 10:00 so we'll check in on that make sure that everything in terms of Copy in the slack channels are all sorted for that episode will go out I'll be working through admin having conversations maybe some calls about 12: midday I'll stop and then begin or like complete redoing prep for the guest then I'll record about 400 p.m. that'll go until about 6 p.m. finish up during that time I'll have gone for walks taking more calls done more bits and pieces of reading all the rest of it and then usually 6:30 go out for dinner with friends and then get back and bed by 10:30 that's most days and then on a weekend uh the I never record on weekends we I train more on a morning I'll tend to go out do comedy live shows all that sort of stuff uh and that's kind of it so it's kind of heavily routinized when I'm at home but way less routinized than it was when I used to live here which again is crazy that couch that I'm pointing at which you totally can't see and you may never see probably thousands of hours I spent on that couch journaling meditating doing doing breath work like writing reading just thinking about stuff for so long so if that sounds uh like robotic whatever I'm doing in Austin given that that's pretty much every single day that version of me from a little while ago was way worse Mercedes Alvarez 8379 I'm nailing it with the names today by the way uh when are you going to have bmth on the Pod all right Bring Me The Horizon uh just today Jordan fish announced that he's leaving uh Jordan is a good friend and I hope that the departure was amicable I don't know anything about it um but I'm a massive fan of the boys and I would love to bring any of them on olle I've told a number of times that he needs to come on we just haven't been in the same place so we will get him eventually Logan Mack regarding your policy of deleting or stopping people's comments from being seen do you reckon this in part stems from being an only child by way of not having to deal with the constant annoyances of others reasons previously given are very valid just a thought all right so to recap uh season one of why people get banned from the channel this is my house take your [ __ ] shoes off like behave in an appropriate way this doesn't mean that I expect everyone to be a sycophant or even agree with me but it means that I expect people to like behave in a civil Manner and if I bring some guests on the show and the comments are just filled with unthoughtful stupid like name calling that hasn't got anything to do with the episode how many times do we go on and look at a 2 and a half hour three-h hour long episode and based on the title and thumbnail someone has already spewed some half-baked opinion using an ad homonym or like calling names or bringing up something which is unrelated and just being a dick it's like hey guess what this isn't a nice environment for anybody to be in and that's not the way that I want it to be go someone else's Channel like I I don't mind if you you only want to contribute to channels where you can can brain fart out whatever you want uninterrupted at all times that's not here so that's what happened before do I think that this is my way of not having to deal with the constant annoyances of others that's so interesting and I've never thought of it before and you actually might be right I don't deal with frustrations very well and when I want something to happen if it's dependent on other people I do find myself getting quite agitated pretty quickly so yeah actually I think that that might contribute to it a little bit um but more so than that I just want a really positive environment what was the first question about negativity on the internet like I don't want a cynical audience and there's a button on the back end of YouTube that's called hide user from Channel I think it's called and it means that that person can still watch they can still comment they can still like but only they can see that comment and no one else can and they're just spewing stuff into the ether and it's one strike and you're done like that's been the policy for over a year now and if you go on and look at episodes there is still tons and tons of criticism so it's not like we're getting rid of criticism we're just getting rid of the people that were spoiling the party for everybody and like you know what it's like you go onto a channel and you look at the top few comments and if the top few comments are stupid you're like oh this is like a really idiotic audience I don't want that sat chit 111 we need a video on your monk mode was just talking about that how timely um so I got a bit of stick actually uh like three or four months ago or maybe even it was at the start of the year and then it got popped back up again by podcast cringe a couple of months ago or a couple of weeks ago um I talked about an old morning routine that I used to do which was pretty extensive it was wake up go for a walk uh element in water come back sit down Journal breath work into into meditation into reading into food prep and it would take during covid i' like spun it up to like n oh and uh uh Mobility work as well so it's Ste Mill's big three for my lower back during Co I'd got that to 90 minutes maybe more maybe probably 90 minutes or so to get that done and I don't disagree all of the people that were saying in the comments when it first came out and then when it popped back up again uh like this is ridic ulous how uh like out of touch uh like tell me that you don't have a job while without telling me that you don't have a job um I don't disagree with all of those things I wasn't suggesting that other people do it or that it was even necessarily optimal there are probably ways that you can enjoy more of your life and not take up the first two hours of your day doing like mad bro self-development stuff however I found unbelievable success with doing that and I think it was maybe a counter to Party Boy Chris that had had his head up his ass for so long that he needed this like very intense pharmaceutical grade dose of introspection and isolation and introversion and all of that stuff to drive it home so for me consider it a compensatory mechanism but for you know for a long time dude I'm looking down there and I can see the stack of journals that I completed like 11 six-month journals in a row that I completed daily morning and evening and these were big they were formative parts of of me and it was it's I'm not going to lie about like what I did what I did during that period was a lot of time on my own a lot of time without alcohol a lot of time without partying 500 days without caffeine all that stuff and it worked and you know I I I don't disagree like it's ridiculous it's [ __ ] it's absolutely insane and almost no one can do it and and many people might see it as hell but it was really good for me and it ended up making me into a better person so I think [ __ ] hoay for that version of Chris Joe Gaffney modern wisdom primarily focuses on intellectuals as guests would you be open to start having people from other fields on like Fred again theovon or are you going to leave that to the kind of Da doac and stick to the intellectual framework so I mean Mark Norman and Whitney Cummings are probably going to be very flattered by you uh calling them intellectuals but yeah man I I I love speaking to people from all different strokes and I don't know for next year I'm thinking about a little bit more from the comedy side I was blown away by Whitney Cummings like look at the comments on that episode at just outstanding like people going I can't like who is this person I was so impressed by her like she's great I really really impressed like enjoyed that conversation yeah for next year Fred again would be great would absolutely adore to speak to him uh theovon is on my hit list and yeah I think broadening out the the fields a little bit more that being said obviously as you go up and up and up through those echelons even for someone with a one and a half million YouTube channel it's still tough like it's still this big like networking game and the timing has to be right and all the rest of it so no yeah uh we'll be broadening out as we have I think we've continued to broaden out quite nicely over the last six years but I won to stop mangalo how does your online success affect your self-image in real life how do you view yourself today versus Chris from five years ago Dude these questions are so good like the Insight that you guys have from watching the show and then being able to work out some hole that's going to be interesting uh you should be very everybody that submitted a question should be very flattered because you you come up with good questions how does online success affect your self-image in real life how do you view yourself today versus Chris from five years ago um to be honest man it's it's like kind of jarring it's that little sentence that I said at the top um identity lags Reality by one to two years so I'm still just catching up to me moving out to Texas and feeling oh like I'm a person who deserves to have an 01 visa and live in America or whatever um I'm less racked with self-doubt and uncertainty than I was before uh I view I view myself as kind of worthy of my successes which I don't think I could have said uh probably even a year ago so that makes me feel good I like the fact that like I'm not just riddled with impostor syndrome and and and and self-doubt uh that's a big difference a huge difference actually um but online success is like it's niche Fame like at the at the very very best I've got like Micro Niche Fame and if you put me in the right broy sort of gym like five guys will come up to me on a busy Saturday and say hey man I love the show and that's great like that's a perfect optimal amount of Fame uh the difference from Chris five years ago was so much I mean confidence uh self-belief the feeling that I deserved success like an endless Litany of things and uh it'll be interesting to see where I'm at in a year's time because it feels like there's been quite a big change internally over the last 12 months Samuel quinnn 2321 would you ever consider being more disagreeable with your guests fair question um I find it tough to really lean in to the disagreeability thing you know like the destiny Douglas Murray style like Michael malice like real finger pushing stuff uh that's not my nature um and kind of in the same way as if you saw some guy that used to weigh you know 55 kilos and now is deadlifting like 150 and you'd be like well £ 150 isn't that much like yeah but look at where he started the time the times that I manag to really push the guests on something with a disagreeable tone takes an awful lot for me to get over and that's part of my nature and it's something that I'm aware of and it's something that I'm working on as well to stop being such a people pleaser even on the show um so yes it's something I'm actively working on and for next year will be one of the key areas of rhetoric that I think I try and bring into the show more uh that being said I in my experience if you give people enough rope they will end up hanging themselves in any case and being just sitting back and giving people room to speak often allows them to like didd their own philosophy uh more effectively than you would be able to but I also don't agree uh don't disagree sorry I would say yeah uh that's something I'm working on Cher you appear to have drifted SLB drifting toward the right politically with your choice of guests is this you aligning with your target audience in an attempt at bringing some sort of balance or something else um I don't know I mean like Scott Galloway Helen Lewis David Pacman Destiny these people I wouldn't have said are from the right uh I would say that I'm definitely more accepted by people who are like from the center and to the right of Center um but I mean I've asked I've been trying to reach out to a ton of people from the left one of which I can say is Hassan ABI like I really want to bring him on I'd love to have a conversation with him I can't get a response here's a good story so we were about to work with a much company we've never done modern wisdom much and I was like God six years 1.5 million Subs pretty cool brand I think modern wisdom is pretty cool brand why don't we make some merch out of it so we found this company and everything was going to be great and it was a West Coast merch company but they distributed internationally and they had a very female very gen ZZ very left leaning design team they did a kickoff call with them and said really great to say that we brought Chris Williamson on board and we're going to be doing the merch for modern wisdom and there was a mutiny and they literally said if if you make us do this we're leaving so the sensitivity around whatever positioning I'm supposed to have I mean like if you think that I'm unspeakable and Beyond The Pale you're [ __ ] if you go on the internet um but yeah that it's tough for me to get those people on that being said Scott Galloway one of my favorite people definitely is like [ __ ] very very Lefty left uh Destiny the same Helen Lewis was great she was the Helen is literally the lady from GQ that like held Jordan Peterson's feet to the fire for 2 and 1 half hours so I try and find balance as best I can Robert Warton 2394 I asked this with no hater Vibe but why why did you choose to make an unhealthy energy drink your business venture I'll be interested to know what you mean by unhealthy because it's got zero sugar it's got natural colorings it's got natural caffeine it's got the methylated version of balamin which is one of the B vitamins which is more easily absorbed by your body it is completely evidence-backed and I will go toe-to-toe with anyone in the evidence-based community on the formulation of it what I presume that you're talking about is the fact that we used a k as the sweetener now if you look at any any shelf of drinks you will see akk and aspartame being used very liberally including in Prime including in tons and tons of drinks that are much more famous than us um I don't think that it's unhealthy by virtue of the fact that I literally designed it this way could we have put a lot of people have said why couldn't you use Stevia have you ever tried to use Stevia with a evidence-based formulation like ours because each one of the different compounds that we put in has a different bitterness profile so you've got cognizin pretty bitter rodol R and panex jinen taste [ __ ] awful on their own eleanine can be kind of gritty then you've got the B vitamins that you need to load on top plus the caffeine that needs to go in trying to get that to taste nice we tried everything I really wanted to try and make it work with uh natural sweeters and it didn't so it's I mean been having it just before I started it's money this stuff's [ __ ] dynamite and I'm so proud of it I love The Branding I love the way it looks I love what it does everyone that takes it is super super impressed so uh if it's not for you if you are so dialed on your health and fitness regime that the type of sweetener that you have in your productivity drink is something that you have narrowed your health and fitness goals down to more power to you but it's not for me mattas why do you party Vape um I feel like you've seen me somewhere uh so yeah when I look we were on tour and I was in uh Toronto or Vancouver uh Vancouver I think uh when I drink I've started vaping uh I do it at comedy clo shows and I do it at um 10 one nights out but thankfully I don't go out that much which means I don't Vape that much I don't know I'm going to blame it on Zach Zach Vapes and when he's got one around I always grab it off him that being said I'm thinking about doing uh sobriety for all of 2024 which will also fix the vaping problem but I don't know largely because it's fun and because whoever it was degenerate Chris party party boy Chris is still in there uh somewhere and I've got to get my fix you know if I'm stop doing fat lines and hard drugs party vaping is like the PG equivalent Isaac mango when is Tim Dylan getting on the show dude I'd love to bring him on I love that guy he's in and out of Austin that guy's been in Austin when I've not been there for the last three times it's almost as if someone knows someone in Tim Dylan's team knows when I'm leaving and then purposefully places him in the city at that time but yeah I I'm a huge fan of his podcast and I would love to bring him on and hopefully we can make it happen next year Ali is there any amount of money which will make you consider making an only fans account everyone's got a price oh ambitious one do you still get depressed that's an interesting question um I did for a lot of my 20s I can't remember the last time that I was um there's little waves of that those thought patterns do sometimes burst above the surface a little bit but it's been a long time like proper proper depression for me is laid in bed can't leave make excuses stop doing things order [ __ ] food don't open the curtains stay on phone all day or watch screens nap at least twice three times don't leave go to bed that night run it back the next day um I actually think in in retrospect that it was like acute burnout rather than Depression was what was happening to me but uh largely no and I think that good health and fitness regime better climate more friends and a better sleep and wake pattern um has made probably 70% to 90% of the difference D1 and only what next um good question I guess going into 2024 so book is going to be a priority for the first six months of next year um I really need to just get my head down and get that written because once it's done then I can you know get back into other things don't let the show drop don't take my eye off the ball there's so many different things that you know opportunities and why don't you do this and we could get you as an adviser and here's an investment and here's a company that we could start and why don't you do a course on that we could do this thing with some partnership with this company all of those things are exciting but they're not the main thing and you know if you've downloaded my reading list you'll see that one of the top five books is essentialism by Greg McKuen and being an essentialist I.E focusing on the vital few not the trivial many doing less but better is easy when you have fewer things available for you to do than time to do them in because you can say yes to everything and still feel like you've got spare time now the btool has been flipped upside down and there are more things that I could do with my time than time that I have to do them in and each potential thing for me to do is like the best thing that I've been offered ever over and over and over again uh so it's hard and uh a skill set that saying no to things is a skill set that I'm still having to develop so what next is book for the first half of next year uh keep doing the show continue to bring on interesting guests continue to shoot in a beautiful manner uh the cinema stuff I adore I think we've really captured uh a part of the market and and like a part of the internet from that kind of didn't exist like no one was shooting things in super high quality like us so I'm going to continue to spin that up um that's kind of it like if I get to the end of next year having written a book and just not stopped my caliber for the show that'll be great from the outside that doesn't look like much but from the inside that's still an absolute [ __ ] ton AOK and then actually I would like to do to start releasing a Bunch like a suite of different courses so we've been talking about monk mode and like me sitting on this couch and stuff there was a very particular sequence of things that I went through in a very particular way that I did it I searched for a long time to find the best in the world for breath work the best in the world for meditation the best in the world for journaling the best in the world for reading practices and Mobility practices and Spinal Rehab and training and all that stuff and if there' been a One-Stop shop for me to find that in it would have made my life a lot easier and they say that you should make products for the person that you were a few years ago and that would have been great for me so maybe I'll start to do something but I don't know like even the like the idea of doing courses and things kind of gives me a bit of a an ick but then I also think that's just because of the way that other people talk about it online rather than the actual value uh offering that it brings so I'll get over that maybe that uh interesting things you should know about what are your New Year's resolutions I haven't done them yet this is December 22nd and I haven't done them so I will sit down next week and do my annual review which you can get at Chris willll x.com review for free Peter wall how long have you been a CIA plant I think I've upgraded oh CIA plant is like way high I'm I'm probably controlled opposition Michael malice has this hierarchy of the different ways that the different ways that glowing experts Ascend or something and it's like I I'm pretty sure I'm controlled opposition or maybe I'm not I'm probably not interesting enough or important enough to be controlled opposition yet areli you always talk about your single child past social anxiety being bullied how have you transitioned from that to running nightclubs that always bugged me as weirdly unlikely uh first off always talk about that interestingly I didn't talk about that before David goggin's episode that was the first time that I really opened up about being bullied and I think and that kind of real social anxiety stuff that I had in the past so it's interesting that that seems at least to you like it's been a it's like a Mainstay of who I am because to me it still feels like a very recent uh Revelation that I've decided to kind of open up about myself uh transitioning from that to running nightclubs yeah um there's a few people that have like oh this guy was obviously popular in school because of either the way he that he looks or the job that he P like pivoted into um I don't know like skepticism around my origin story maybe I should take it as a compliment that I seem so well balanced now that there's no way that I could have been like a total like neurode Divergent degenerate artist in in school but I promise you and if you ask any of the people that I went to school with they would they would back me up um how did I transition from that into running nightclubs I guess I saw the opportunity to be someone that people needed and if people need you it's kind of the same as them wanting you and even if people didn't want me but needed me to get a VIP band that manifested as me being accepted by the world and being uh being given validation and being given a like a a place of belonging in some way uh so that PIV and also don't forget for almost all of my childhood years I was on the outside of social networks looking in so I was observing and working out how different things moved and why people did things the way they did and how they moved between that's what a club promoter does a club promoter looks at social networks and works out how to manipulate them so that you can get people to go to a different event who's the key taste maker within that the only difference between being popular and unpopular with that is can you get in can you like play the social game the social dynamics game of actually being able to communicate and as soon as you've got that down you've got this massively increased level of attention and precision uh and focus that you have on why people are the way they are which I think is still largely why my obsession with human nature on the podcast evolutionary psychology all of that stuff is still here Connor how many of your subscribers are because of your jawline yeah this has become a bit of a meme online someone a bunch of people have had Pops at me on Twitter about this it's very interesting it's a very interesting criticism given that the show is bigger on Spotify than it is on YouTube and you can't see me on there uh I mean look I've chosen to do a thing which is the least flash least showy like I'm doing it with a top on uh I'm cropping this above the arms like when people meet me in real life they're like wow dude like you're like less of a skinny [ __ ] than I thought like you're a bit more jacked than I thought you were um I think it is cope to say that the reason that this podcast is successful is because of my jaw line the same way as it's cope to say that it's successful because of uh love Island I came off of iseland with an additional 3,000 followers in 201 15 16 whenever I did it uh it was Tiny and it did nothing and actually put me back we've lost contracts with partners and Airlines because the person that was the key tastemaker found out that I was on love Island so if you think that going on love Island helps and then the jawline thing I don't know if you think that Jordan Peterson gets seduced by me doing a like model face at him uh you might be unfortunately surprised Jean Luke Picard is it okay to put Nikes in the washing machine thanks sure let's say yes I've managed to thread the needle of never doing my own washing pretty much I can do it but I choose not to uh and I'm 35 so my advice is work out a way where you don't need to do your own washing Jason Stone didn't you only have 1 million about 3 weeks ago I think it was about four months ago but yeah it's been the last few months have just been crazy which is also beautiful but disquieting and uh I'm holding on for dear life Al the dating advice for gurus online seems to boil down to just be successful bro given that women rate 80% of men as physically unattractive and 50% of men are below average intelligence what's the advice for those 40% of men that's interesting the bar is set unbelievably low like the average American man is obese divorced and with less than 1K in the bank that is a very very low bar uh I think that the internet over indexes on objective metrics of success and doesn't account for what happens in person you will see regularly people and guys that are charismatic funny sexy in person batting way outside of their league if you were to just look at them from an online perspective basically I would say don't overthink what the internet says because the reality of dating for almost everybody if you talk to people that aren't terminally online and ask them about their dating experiences and then talk to the people who are terminally online these two don't spend all that much time getting close that being said it is there are some genetic uh like truths uh that are rough to get around but again dude if you go to the gym three times a week for a year you're probably in the top percentile of all Fitness people on the planet if you spend 300 bucks on a relatively okay wardrobe with some blacks some whites some navies and some Grays you're probably better dressed than most of the guys that you're going to walk past like the bar is so [ __ ] low so the dating advice from gurus online boils down to just be successful bro it's like just try a bit and you will already be probably a six or seven out of 10 sabinal who is the man with the most insane work ethic that you have known hosi obvious answer but that guy's ability to go and go and go and not stop is [ __ ] ungodly and it's it's impressive it's very um it's admirable to see uh and also uh largely unrealistic for most people to achieve uh ham cheese lettuce mayo sandwich uh question why the F did you start selling a snake oil tonic drink it's not a tonic it's called neonic um I would be interested to know what the snake oil thing part of that is given that it is completely evidence-based and the main movers from a neut Tropics perspective are probably the most researched and well-backed that there are uh but the reason I started selling it is because I wanted it and it didn't exist so I made it and I figured if I've made it for myself I might as well give it to other people too Fran copz 167 why haven't you brought in an expert in metaphysics or spirituality like Jo do dispenser or someone like that or you just don't believe in these things please it's an honest question greetings from Venezuela greetings to you too Franco Perez I love how I don't know whether it's Google translate or just kind of a an unnecessarily formal way um of of putting stuff across but I love how like please it's an honest question it's like so like unnecessarily uh nice in the way that it's done just in case he like offended me uh and meanwhile there's like armies and armies of people on hide user from Channel just like spewing [ __ ] um I am a fan of Dr Dr Joe dispenser and uh I am trying quite hard to bring him on the show so if your metaphysics and spirituality is aligned appropriately if our astral Realms have worked in sync with the retrograde of Venus you may get him sooner than you think J Road dog one more African-Americans on the show please sure suggest some I would love to bring some African-Americans on speak speaking of that not sure if you saw um people kicked off about spotify's uh top 10 shows uh not being sufficiently ethnically diverse and there was a bunch of people putting ninja emojis uh Ninja I think is referring to how many African Americans that were or people of African descent we can put in a politically correct way uh where are all of my ninjas at was a question that was asked super top comy loads and loads and loads of people it's like if you actually look at it Steven is like I think garan mother or something like that Jetty isn't white uh the chick that does the Ted thing is I'm pretty sure she's Asian so all of the people that were like this isn't sufficiently representative like it's full of white people I wonder how stevenh and Jay and the Ted lady feel about being like white people funny peral SMI Sima if you had a son what would you name him I like red rising and the lead protagonist in that is called Darrow I think Darrow is a [ __ ] dope name for a kid you're not having a loser if your son is called Darrow like it's impossible to grow up and be called Darrow and not be an absolute stud so daro R pit tiala no question just a suggestion make a different channel for Clips it gets messy I've seen many creators making different clips channels and chips channels getting more views than the main one Clips channels getting more views than the main one um you have but that is survivorship bias and if you look at all of the other Clips channels that are part of other like moderately successful podcasts you'll see that they get dog [ __ ] plays My Philosophy from the very beginning was when people bate their channels off and have one main podcast feed and one Clips feed you get a underperforming main podcast Channel and a total dog [ __ ] performing chips Clips Channel look I'm [ __ ] doing it now chips Channel um you do that and that wasn't something that I thought structurally made that much sense if you're a fledgling podcaster I would advise not doing it I would put everything that you have into one channel it makes it way easier to do scheduling it makes it way easier for accounting it makes it way easier operationally and it's worked for us maybe I could have had a 1.1 million sub main Channel and a 500K Clips Channel but like what the [ __ ] am I doing with the clips Channel I'm just all all for one Nate 6795 are you the on it guy I swear I recognize you from an ad from them with Rogan that's or Marcus that's someone does he look like me I don't think he does we we both live in Austin we' both got short hair sometimes he's covered in tattoos he's three inches taller than me uh anyway maybe I'm wrong either way love your podcasts I would love to see more content creators like streamers Gamers and also comedians are always great to watch bilur would love to get Bill b Bill bur on trying to get Hassan ABI on uh I don't know who else from streamers like Charlie would be great Ludwig would be great um I don't think I watch many of the streamers and then all of the chick streamers are getting themselves in bother at the moment so stay clear George Mack what have you changed your mind about most in the last 12 to 24 months o um hormonal birth control was a huge one last year that was a really big one uh I you know coming from a a nightlife background you just presume that like a lot of people having casual sex it's probably pretty good to ensure that we don't have accidental pregnancies and then I just learned about the impact that this stuff has on women's Mental Health on their bodies it can lock in a type of protein folding uh during formative years of brain development in the brain that causes women to be more predisposed to anxiety and all sorts of stuff so skepticism around hormonal birth control was a big one last year this year has probably been epigenetics uh just I thought that epigenetics was like the quantum healing of the of the genetic behavioral genetics world or just the straightup genetics World um I thought it was [ __ ] and I was wrong so uh epigenetics this year and hormonal birth control last year Simon Evans could you have achieved the success without leaving the UK no no I I have often thought this did I need to make the move to Austin in order to be able to do the things and could I have repurposed it or whatever whatever but it's like a million tiny changes in exposure and who you're hanging around with and the conversations you have and the people that you run into too and then the change in my work rate and inspiration and enthusiasm because I'm around a different type of culture and then the change in weather and the all of that stuff uh so largely no the crypto Journal how would you recommend a podcaster or content creator builds Their audience without going on love island or a similar godforsaken reality TV show again I would go as far as to say that love Island was a net negative for my podcasting Journey it gave me nothing I started this podcast with nothing there were days in March or April after we' launched and we were one episode per week deep there were days where we did zero total plays across audio and YouTube zero none no plays right so it wasn't like we had some huge launch and it gave us a catapult uh so I would recommend that you do it the same way that I did I think the way that I did it is the most reliable way to do it which is don't stop if you don't stop you will eventually get good presuming that you have the raw materials to be good at it uh building an audience is tough but consistency is the rarest thing in all of content creation because everybody wants an audience now and it's hard to get an audience now but it's actually pretty easy to get an audience in six years time Charles do you have a book or books you've read more than three three times more read more three or more times in the past decade if yes this is the [ __ ] thing if if someone puts a typo in their question it makes me sound like an idiot when I try like who's this keton that can't read the questions it's like no no that's how the question was written do you have a book or books you've read more three or more times in the past decade nailed it if yes uh what keeps you bring what keeps bringing you back to that book if no is there one you think fits the criteria for you I'm also I'm also jetlagged okay I'm jet lagged I didn't sleep on the plane over so forgive me if the Precision is a little bit off essentialism by Greg mchu and I must have read at least twice or three times the almanac of Nal rant I must have read at least two or three times Red Rising my favorite fiction book I must have read at least three times those are probably them uh if yes what keeps me bringing me back to that book uh there are lessons in essentialism and the almanac of noval ravikant that I haven't yet learned or implemented so I need to be reminded of it and Red Rising is just [ __ ] awesome Ben which episode did you feel the most uncomfortable about releasing to the world wow that's a good question that's the first time I've ever been asked that which question which episode it's hard it's real hard when people ask about you know which episode across the entire library because it's 7 what's it 720 or something now like such a huge number and I can like a lot of them I've forgotten um but recently I can give you one recently the Patrick B David episode I actually I really wasn't happy with my performance on it um I wasn't happy with the way it flowed I didn't think like I'd per I didn't feel like I'd perform particularly well I was imprecise with my speech I hadn't pushed him where I'd wanted to I hadn't opened up the way that I'd wanted to it was just messy there some days like you just you some days you just don't hit it right uh when you go out onto the field of play and you know everything just feels a little bit off it's like getting The Yips I suppose as a a sportsman and uh I just didn't feel good and I remember we finished the episode and we'd done this like crazy period of we were over in La we'd done all of the episodes in LA and then we flew over to to uh Florida and then we recorded with Patrick and we'd had all of this travel and we' nailed it and everything had gone great and I was I was like in a bit of a slump I was driving home or I was in the Uber on the way to the airport know just feeling a bit disgruntled with myself and I had to take myself to one side and have a little word and I texted Dean and told him and he was like dude I don't know what's up I don't know what you mean like everything seemed to go great as far as I could see and I was like yeah I know but it's not my best and it could have been better than all the rest of it so not for any particular reason other than I wasn't happy with my performance on the episode that pbd one um still you know I'm sure it listened great but if you go back and listen to it see if you can pick up on me [ __ ] the bed a ton of times cognitively the Zen master my feeling of pure passion and my feeling of pure emotional pain seemed to be indistinguishable this started after I really leveled up in my efforts I can't tell if I should lean into it or be cautious with it do you know what this is my feeling of pure passion and my feeling of pure emotional pain seem to be indistinguishable wow that's very interesting uh I am hesitant about giving this sounds like it could be the beginning of schizophrenia or bipolar disorder or something so I'm like a hesitant about giving uh bestowing any Bro Science to someone that might need a more educated eye my sense is always to try and investigate without leaning into it a little bit more before you lean into it too much because if you lean into it too much there is no undoing that so maybe do I would focus on some journaling and I would ask yourself questions about like what is it that's causing the emotional pain what is it that's causing the passion where does the passion come from how can I bate these two out and just ask yourself some questions sit with a bit of silence and see what comes up uh hopefully what you should be able to do is use that passion to if if pain and passion feel the same way you basically don't have pain anymore if you can just alchemize anytime that the pain arises that's just passion it's like the um it's Whitney Cummings thing she says uh no sorry uh [ __ ] God damn it who does dumpster fire who does dumpster fire the podcast [ __ ] who is it [ __ ] this see this is jet lag this is jet lag for you anyway I'm not nervous I'm excited is the tagline that uh that name's just not going to come to me I'm going to bail out uh I'm not nervous I'm excited is the same as I'm not in pain this is just passion and you should be able to repurpose it God see that's that's another one just not enough sleep [ __ ] the bed Steve cardos cardoso what are some mantras you regularly return to um this is what hard feels like from Alex is [ __ ] brilliant like did you expect that the thing that you're trying to do this great achievement that you wanted to do that you were going to be proud of did you expect it to not be hard no all right this is what hard feels like and it just repurposes any time that you encounter challenge or difficulty from this is a bug to this is a feature it's the entry price I decided to pay when I wanted to go and do this thing so that's probably been one of my most common this year Simon dweight what gets you to 3 million honestly bro like if I don't put my foot in my mouth which again like I did this last year I said maybe the exact same episode or something similar a question about like what's your plan for 2023 and I said I want to fist [ __ ] the internet I wouldn't bet against me um really it's all mine to lose at the moment I think like everything that we touch seems to go relatively well and I can I have the team we need to develop the team a little bit more I need a chief of staff and like some other things so that I don't need to be involved day-to-day quite so much but we have the team in terms of raw materials we have the platform we have the brand Equity I have the skill set to just grow this thing essentially infinitely I think uh and the only thing really that can take it down is me so if I'm looking back on this in a couple of years time and thinking you idiot why did you do X Y or Zed that caused you to be totally cancelled and stop then so be it but what gets me to 3 million is just me continuing to do the thing that I've always done and that's what I intend to do Marcus Phillipson will new tonic ever be available in Sweden dude we are trying to roll this thing out globally as much as we can we're out of stock again like this I had to get this is a good story I had to get George to bring this puppy he bought 10 cases that's a good friend buy 10 cases of your your buddy's new drink he brought two up yesterday so I got my friend to buy my product off his own back separately then bring it to me then leave it at my house so I could drink it that's like the best like uh Arbitrage opportunity ever uh but yeah we're going to try and get it everywhere being able to create sufficient product is proving really hard because the demand is super high but it'll be there soon light truck light light blue truck do the English accent went alone or is it just a [Laughter] bit Ah could you imagine if I got off this and just cracked out like some deep south accent uh no unfortunately or fortunately I'm cursed with this all the time gorav what is it all for that's open to interpretation uh from a question perspective and very existential but increasingly I think that it is all for fun like if you're not having fun doing the things that you're doing like what what's the [ __ ] point honestly like especially you know I'm speaking of someone who's managed to achieve way more success than he ever thought he was going to and it's like still going I'm still in the throws of it right so I don't know where it's going to come into land if at all or crash land perhaps as well but you can you can sacrifice so much on route to achieving anything that you want to that you look back and you go what was the what was the [ __ ] point like there's honestly so much satisfaction in the fun of getting to wherever it is and almost none of it in the achievement of whatever it is so right now what is it all for it's for at the moment for me setting up a life in which I can have more fun that is one of my mantras for 2024 Jim Knight how much have the cinema episodes played a part in securing the high-profile guests you've had in the past few months I know several probably came through the gym shot connection but did the appeal of a ridiculously beautiful recording help with getting Joo and doggin Etc so with Goggins I know that it definitely did um Joo I don't think so I think the channel is kind of able to run under its own momentum now although Joo was wow would have been 400k something like that so significantly smaller and much less impressive of a roster so yeah maybe maybe it has contributed a good bit um I think it's cool like if if I go to someone you know that's a highly sought-after guest like Dr Joe dispenser or Kyle from the nek boys or someone and I say hey I want to do something with you that you typically wouldn't do I need 4 hours of your time but I'm going to drop 30 grand and make the most beautiful podcast that you've ever been a part of like better than you can make yourself because I have the team and we have the skill set to be able to bring this together and you don't even need to leave your city it's hard to say no to and um like that that strategy makes me feel satisfied I think the guests genuinely love it I think they feel proud of what they're a part of and it's cool and it's genuinely novel like I don't I don't think anyone's doing it the way that we're doing it on YouTube at the moment and I enjoy it and it's going to get better this year it's going to get spun up even harder so hopefully you will see even more crazy like go back and watch the Chris Bumstead episode we made some errors on that from a production perspective but largely it looks like a scene out of cyberpunk 2077 it's so cool uh where are we here Osama bin balling oh my [ __ ] god that is the Osama bin balling was your appearance on Joe Rogan's podcast a pivotal moment for your own brand and how does this experience relate to building friendships and situations where you might not be the most knowledgeable um yeah it was it's like a seal of approval right you get stamped from the king or whatever you are bestowed he sort of TAPS the sword on either shoulder and say is like this is one of the people that you should look out for presuming that you don't [ __ ] the bed on the episode I think I managed to avoid doing that um it was it was an important moment and I think that it it it genuinely kind of does open doors but not in the immediate like you just get this ton of influx of things just that people see you in a different way and you become part of a relatively exclusive Club I mean I don't know Joe's done like 2,000 episodes but including all of the repeat guests and stuff I reckon he's only had maybe 12200 people on the show so it is quite a small group and that was useful how does this experience relate to building friendships in situations where you might not be the most knowledgeable are you saying that I'm not the most knowledgeable in uh I'm not sure I I'm not quite sure what that means uh I don't know what that means I'm going to have to bail out James do you ever resonate inwardly with a feeling like impostor syndrome that although having a platform known for appc knowledge and wisdom that somehow it's present in your guests but that you're still on a journey to attain wisdom yourself so this gap for sure between the people that I speak to and their level of competence and insight uh and me is something that I am fully aware of like on a daily basis uh I have made a career out of being the most stupid person in the room permanently and I'm every single time that I sit down I'm reminded of that fact and yeah I interestingly that's never actually given me impostor syndrome like oh these people are whatever than me more rich or famous or or successful or aidite or like knowledgeable or whatever than me um and I also think that it's not my job I've never once ever ever posited myself as having it all sorted out or even having it slightly sorted out having a part of any part of it sorted out ever um I think that one of the reasons that hopefully this resonates with you guys is that I am on the journey and I'm like leaving the breadcrumbs behind including the ones that uh like crap where I go I I tried to do this thing and I failed or this was a strategy that I attempted and it didn't work or whatever like all of those things all of those failures and all of those insights are only able to be born out largely because of how difficult I find things and how like useless I've been so um no I I actually think it's been pretty reassuring but I can see how if I posited myself as some sort of Guru or some you know like great Insight around anything that you're supposed to do Beyond simply this is my experience this is what I've learned works and doesn't work for me and maybe you should try it uh it would be very different Andrew Waterhouse besides the drink and tour are there other products you'd like to sell in future like JP does his books courses SB has a book TV shows Etc um I am done with TV what's the knock on wood Famous Last Words uh but I'm done with TV it's so unenjoyable it is [ __ ] awful to watch this slow clunky Behemoth of a huge [ __ ] production chunder along and then say right guys we're going to go for Take One and can we go back and we're going to have to run that again and blah dude it sucks then you look at YouTube and it's so fast PAC past and agile and no time it's lean there's no time wasted so TV can get [ __ ] um Jordan books courses so book yep like I say by the start of 25 you will have something that I'm very proud of and I'm really excited about uh courses I mentioned earlier on there is a bit of like ick and you know the distaste that people had when I decided to release a drink that I wanted and I needed and then said hey I've spent 12 once developing this there's a lot of criticism although it's been a lot more uh Hollow because of how legit the product is and maybe that's the lesson that my dis Qui around the potential of releasing a course is because the world of courses has been heavily consumed and filled by people who release courses that aren't really that worthwhile and if I was to do it if I do it the same way that we did new tonic which is like the best in class absolute best in class at a price point that's that's fair and all the rest of it then what is there to be ashamed of so yeah I I would love to do some courses and you know there is like in order for us to continue to make this thing move I need to sit down in the seat and that means that I never get a break from sitting down in the seat and I love sitting down in the seat but there may come a time where I just want to take like a two week break and keep things ticking over so like what does that mean I don't know we we'll wait and see but courses courses and books would be great on the on the horizon uh Campbell what would an elite five episode start a pack of modern wisdom look like for a new listener oh that's cool all right so we need something motivational we need something epic we need something underground that no one knows about probably need a story from Left Field so I would say it would be a disservice not put Goggins in so I think Goggins is the first one I think any Ginder Bogle episode as the second for human nature Insight I think maybe hosi 2 uh from just like a straight up uh motivational human nature standpoint uh Rory otherland 2 the one that I recorded when I was in Dubai is just outstanding and one of the funniest episodes I've ever done and I want like a story based one I did an episode with the guy that the mortanian was written about um and it's basically just a 90-minute monologue of him explaining his situation so that's your five episode starter pack that that's kind of difficult to work out Bo Sanderson how do you find that you were able to be more Curious specific specifically on a topic that you want to learn about but isn't particularly as exciting for you as another topic how do you find that you are able to be more Curious not entirely sure what that means but for me it's just internal like I I can't stop myself I want to find out everything I want to find out why the sky is that color and why the bird moves in that way and why that person uses their left hand not their right hand to eat cake and all of the things I want to know them all and it's a blessing and a curse um when it comes to trying to make yourself more Curious to learn a topic Which is less exciting than another one my advice unless it's for a degree or a course that you kind of don't get to choose is bin off the other topic which isn't as exciting and just focus on all the exciting ones that's the simplest solution Boy Wonder do you work out your draw muscles with one of them chewy things to look like that uh no and I'm pretty fat at the moment like I'm one of I mean the fattest slowest smallest that I've been in probably ever like since I was maybe 24 or 25 so uh again I know maybe if the the internet's correct if all that you need to do to build a podcast is just use one of them chewy things to work your jaw muscles uh but no um that being said I think it's jaws of size I'm pretty sure that they kind of illegally used a video of Andrew huberman talking about either them or an analgous product and then uh maybe they had to do a cease and deist I feel like hubman and them got got in bothered for some reason or Andrew sued them on some [ __ ] I don't know what Sven what is something that everybody in the productivity in the productivity business believes will get them success but is completely wrong so I think that there's an overreliance on Leverage and I've seen this in the content creator world and it's something that I'm also uh as the revenue from the show allows me to finally not need to just do everything myself it's something that I'm very cognizant of myself too when everyone read the almanak Nal rabant they believed that leverage was just the most important thing that you can force multiply your inputs to outputs through Code Media labor Capital whatever the other one is but what it caused lots of people to do is take that eye off the ball and take that eye off the main thing which is the most important thing to them so they started to Outsource and try and get leverage on the main thing that they do for instance there are like three things that I need to get right I need to choose the right guests so I can't Outsource the guest bucking uh uh process or at least the guest selection process I suppose I need to have a great conversation so I can't Outsource the research process and it needs to be framed right to get people to click on it on the internet so I try to touch as I said earlier on I touch all of the titles and thumbnails that go out at least almost all of them so those are areas in which Leverage is really hard for me to apply but they're also the most timec consuming right if I get someone else to do all my guest booking or someone else to do all my research or someone else to do all the titles and thumbs I'd free up like 20 hours a week 30 hours a week probably so I understand why people are tempted to do that but it's also the exact wrong place to do it so leverage used in the wrong way to get people to extract themselves from the most important thing that their business does that's what it is franchisco eramus how has the growth of your social media influenced changes in your personality or thought processes that's an interesting question so I guess you know depending on where you came in from uh there's questions from Twitter here from YouTube from Instagram um depending on where you came in from you have a different view of like me or what I do uh there's some people I found this out the other day there's tons of people that subscribe to my newsletter that don't even know I did a podcast literally don't know I did a podcast they just like the writing or hated the writing and just like to hate read it I don't know uh so it's it's nice it's very flattering for people to come up and say nice things um it's made me a little bit more skeptical in a way that I wish I could stop about whether new people have my best interests at heart um and again it's that thing from the very top where I was like no one teaches you about how to deal with scrutiny or fame or criticism or or attention or any of that stuff people just are more interested in you you and you don't know how to deal with it and you become skeptical of whether or not they have what like why and you think back to a previous version of you and what you think is well this person wouldn't have been interested in the previous version of me so the only reason they're interested in me now is because they want something and maybe if they want something that means that they don't have my best interest at heart and that means I should be skeptical of them and that is kind of a dangerous mindset to get in I think because you want to assume the best from people especially if they're being nice to you so I understand why the songs talking about No New Friends especially for people who are obviously like infinitely more famous than I am because it gets around this problem if you don't have any any new friends you don't ever have to question whether or not new people have your best interest at heart now it also means that you maybe don't question whether or not the old people have your best interests at heart but that's one thing I want to stop like I I don't want to be skeptical of people people just because they're being nice to me and because I imagine this version of the past life where they wouldn't have been nice to another version of me that wasn't that didn't have a a big following or or whatever uh so that's one of them I guess metah Helix how do you intuitively adapt your interviewing style and or questions on the Fly based on your guest's responses you're very well researched prepared and methodical thank you but sometimes achieving the optimal conversation flow is challenging like Peterson yes Jordan is uh like boxing a southpaw a little bit Le the last one he was very disciplined the second episode I did with him he was it was way more southp and we were talking over each other and it was messy and I didn't I wasn't as happy but the most recent one flowed pretty much perfectly like if you're ever having a conversation you can see this when you're really really attuned with someone the the quantum healing people would say that like you're vibrating at the same level or whatever um it's if you're having a conversation and you're able to get single words into their sentence that were the word or an analogous word to the one that they were about to use and then they continue the sentence awesome like me and Johnny from propane have this quite a lot he's one of the most even though we're quite different people he's one of the most attuned in terms of cadence that me that of anybody that I speak to and a lot of the time we'll be talking back and forth and he'll be about to say something and I'll dip in with the word or whatever it is and it works brilliantly um that being said adapting the interviewing style or whatever is just not having too much of a preconceived idea about where it's going to go it's like I'm sitting down with this person today I have a game plan of where I think would be interesting to take it based on my research of what they do and the intersection of what they do and what I'm interested in and we'll see if that then diagram goes and if within the first 5 minutes like in a sports game if that just gets thrown out of the window said well guess what like we're not talking about the thing that I thought we were talking about today that's why you do research you do research not so you have a list of questions but so you know the person's body of work and after a while to be honest as well like 700 episodes deep I've done so many like literally thousands of hours of of this now I've always got a story from someone from the past or some idea or Insight or study or whatever that I've already learned that I can use so if someone wants to go down one rabbit hole it's been very long time since someone's given me an entirely new like completely new [ __ ] hell this is total fresh snow it's been a long time since uh that's happened so I think it's a combination of preparation not being too like contrived or or or uh pre-planning with the process and then just going where it goes uh M what is a question you regret not asking a guest uh and number two what is your pre-show ritual pre-show ritual is pretty simple um when I get to do it it's a five-minute vocal warm-up that Miles my speech coach got me to do which still to this day is great at just getting my tongue moving and making sure that I'm nice and precise with my speech and getting my uh my mind moving um usually don't eat for about two hours before if I can because it makes me a bit more sluggish another one of the reasons that I'm not doing too well today I'm like looking through the cupboards in my kitchen in Newcastle for something that isn't my housemates that he needs or massively out of date and there like weater Bic so I'm like fueled by poor sleep neonic and Weetabix today don't know whether you have wabix in America anyway it's a pretty Elite serial but probably not great if that's all you've had uh what is a question that you not that you regret not asking a guest uh certainly one that comes to mind from Recently was Peterson um he did something which is technically referred to as Jesus smuggling on our episode um and he has this idea of like if you believe that one thing can be more good than another thing then you believe that God exists because God is the most good thing that can exist and I didn't understand at the time and what I wanted to say was mate I might be being stupid here but that just that just sounds like a value hierarchy rather than God uh and I didn't because I didn't want to sound stupid and then I spoke to Alex okona who's like the most knowledgeable person on this kind of conversation that I know of and he just said that's exactly the question that you should have asked so I regret not asking that because I didn't want to seem foolish uh Chris Le poin hi Chris how rewarding does it feel given the problem you've described before about your friend conversion rate that a lot of people you interview have become good friends interviewed Illustrated well in your recent conversation with Rob Henderson so yeah I met a million people across my nightlife career and I had a handful of friends here in Newcastle which means that my friendship exposure to conversion ratio wasn't exactly fantastic and uh it's unbelievably rewarding man like it's the opportunity to turn your Idols into Rivals and then Rivals into friends is awesome and then sometimes you don't need to go to the rivals bit first you can just go straight to the Friends bit but look I it feels great um you basically get to create your own social network you're like who do I want to be friends with well that's a person that I respect and that's a person that's interesting so I'll just try and invite them on my podcast and maybe they'll become friends with me so yeah it's it's awesome hi Chris which Joe Rogan episode features the layers of paint that you frequently refer to I think it was mine I think it was the episode that he did with me although I may be wrong or I may have just made it up Chris Miracle very very clever my question is which guest would you love to have on Modern wisdom most love to have on Modern wisdom and why uh Naval is still top of the list man that guy elusive elusive elusive Naval um he's still on sabatical post Rogan but uh yeah I uh I would love to speak to him I think that it's the greatest podcast episode that's ever been made his episode on Rogan and I would love to run that back go all out full Cinema setup for him so we'll wait and see uh Captain Reese you talk about people growing themselves from $1 to 100K has a set of skills it is has a set of SK I've been [ __ ] diddled by a bad question again or again but than going to 10 million type frame what skill sets do you think you will have to learn to adopt to get to to be to get to I'm going to have to bail out of it I mean that's to get to 1 million sub we're already at 1 million Subs we're I'm moving down I'm moving down Sean Spooner Mark Manson says identity lags Reality by one to two years so in some ways you're the Chris with 247,000 subscribers who hasn't yet interviewed Jordan Peterson or jocker willink or David Goggins you haven't done a soldout tour or launched new tonic or been on Rogan with that said how are you finding the blistering pace of change in your life right now does this new reality feel like reality yet that's a great question um it feels kind of like it it is pretty disquieting it's like you know when you get to the top of a roller coaster and you sort of everything gets weightless and you do this it feels a little bit like that um but I'm getting used to it um and the SK thankfully I've got people around me that kind of keep my feet on the ground and also it's so much easier to be like this type of like Niche internet Fame because you don't see it in person and I can also see having done the live shows how as a rock star you become completely detached or maybe a comedian you become completely detached from the world because all right well all of these people just adoring thousands and thousands of people whereas you know what's 3,000 comments on a YouTube video like it's a lot of comments but it doesn't hit you in the same way that 3,000 people turning up in a theater and talking to you does so yeah um reality is unreal in many ways but I'm getting used to it Ben Rogan part two happening next week uh it wasn't um but I'd love to go back on um I'm very very hesitant about suggesting to Joe that I come back on that is like a thing that people do hey man like I'm back in town and why don't we like get an episode recorded that makes me feel quite nervous to do that but yeah I uh I think hopefully next year that would make me very happy Dez do you get nervous before recording a podcast um it's very rare now last time was probably Sam Harris um and that was a little bit it arose and then it went away and that was mostly because he was late um I think it was like 15 minutes late and in the 1550 minutes I was waiting it like started to spin up a little bit uh but yes I've managed to largely get rid of that of that nervousness beforehand which is just you know the undeniable stack of proof that you are who you say you are it worked well uh Matt oldfields tipping in the US I'm actually in Bahamas but I understand same protocol you have tax and 15% service added to printed Bill and then below you were offered to leave extra gratuity service which you write in there with depend that they leave is it customary to leave an extra tip unfortunately Matt yes it is and it is any less than 15% is usually seen as a bit of a snub uh 10% is basically like a you've Cur one out in the middle of the restaurant uh and I typically try and go for between like around about 20% seems pretty pretty pretty right all right I'm going to round it out there ladies and gentlemen I appreciate you thank you um for all of the subs and all of the support this is the end of 2023 and it's been the crazy year and I have no idea where we're going to be in 12 months time but I know that I'm still going to be doing this so thank you very much for tuning in peace